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⌈ Secret Post #2232 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Non-fandom Secrets

[(Anonymous)]

Well, okay, but...you've got to actually explain your opinion, here. There's nothing wrong with having a different perspective on things, but you aren't going to get very far if you just say, "I have this view and I'm proud of it, the end!"

What makes a slut? Why is it wrong to be one? What beliefs/morals/values inform the standard that you've developed? Why do you think that your standard is better than the one that you find to be the most common? Do you think that the other standard causes some manner of harm? If so, what? In other words: what is the reasoning behind your position, and are you prepared to defend it?

Re: Non-fandom Secrets

[(Anonymous)]

OP

I'm just going to answer all in one post, so hopefully everyone else who's asked me these questions will see it.

I define a slut as someone who has casual sex. I don't necessarily feel that it's "wrong" to be one, in that it doesn't really hurt anyone, but I do think it's a mark of emotional immaturity. I view sex as an extremely intimate thing; sex is to the body as marriage is to the heart. I have no problem with sex before marriage, but I would definitely side-eye anyone who got married to someone they barely know, or aren't in love with. People ridicule celebrities for doing that kind of thing; that same ridicule is what I feel towards "sluts". So no, I don't equate sluttiness to some horrible crime or anything. I just think it's stupid to have sex with someone if you don't know them, or if you don't have strong feelings for them.

I have no cultural background for this belief, except for the fact that this is what I have always known. Until recently, the only context I ever heard about it in was as a follow-up to a strong emotional connection. But I don't think anyone ever needs a reason to think anything. Opinions aren't formed consciously; they happen. So I refuse to "blame" my upbringing for how I feel about any particular issue. Even if that was a factor, I doubt it was a large one. That's just my belief, though...what will you do?

Re: Non-fandom Secrets

[(Anonymous)]

DA

The thing is, I also view sex as an extremely intimate thing... for me. If other people don't feel the same connection that I do between emotional intimacy and sex, and consider protected casual sex to simply be a form of physical recreation, why is that stupid? I could see thinking someone stupid if they had the same sex=intimacy feelings that I did and still had casual sex, because they'd be making themselves highly emotionally-vulnerable to people they didn't know. But if sex doesn't have those attributes in their mind? Then I don't see what's stupid about it.

Nor do I expect everyone to have exactly the same preferences and priorities that I do; someone isn't stupid or immature for having butter-pecan as their favorite ice cream flavor, even if it seems blatantly obvious to me that chocolate is far superior. But it seems like you think a person is stupid and immature if they don't relate to sex emotionally in the same way that you do. Why?