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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2013-02-12 06:38 pm

[ SECRET POST #2233 ]


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(Anonymous) 2013-02-13 12:35 am (UTC)(link)
AYRT

I mean, yeah, that's fucked. But I also see people derailing discussions of rape (or IPV) with "what about the men?!" so often that I can also see how it gets exhausting to try to talk about a gendered phenomenon and constantly have to get derailed and cater to people who are worried about dudez.

Not that you can't worry about dudes, and ANY form of rape/IPV is horrible and yes it happens to men and so on, but it can be super difficult to navigate that without seeming to either ignore dudes entirely or feel like you're constantly catering to the "what about the men?" crowd and thus being derailed and forced to talk about men when you're trying to protect women, which is sort of putting them at the spotlight of a feminist conversation, which is SO ANNOYING.

That was so rambling. I hope it was coherent. D:

(Anonymous) 2013-02-13 01:46 am (UTC)(link)
I've seen posted discussions on male rape victims derailed with the "only 1 out of 10 rape victims are male" comments, so there's wrong in both camps.