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⌈ Secret Post #2236 ⌋

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[Inda series]

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[Les Miserables and Discworld]

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[Three Kingdoms 2010, Legend of Chu and Han]

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[DBSK]

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[The Elder Scrolls IV: Oblivion (Shivering Isles)]

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09. [SPOILERS for ]

[Umineko no Naku Koro Ni]

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10. [SPOILERS for Supernatural]

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11. [WARNING for rape]

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12. [possible warning for sexual assault (as I'm sure the thread will contain discussion of it)]

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13. [WARNING for abuse]

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14. [WARNING for rape, abuse, etc]

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15. [WARNING for suicide]

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16. [WARNING for eating disorders]

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17. [WARNING for rape/non-con]

[Homestuck]

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Why do you feel like you need to be involved in a specific community? You can be bi or gay or lesbian without doing those things. I think you're overanalyzing too much. If you want to join in some community, do it. If you want to voice your opinion, do it. This doesn't mean everyone is always going to agree with you, and that's okay. None of that makes you not a bi person.

We got like one community in Norway (with branches) not a big country. I have no need to join any kind of group. But being alienated from other LGBT people is something that I feel all the time. Even in the description page on the Norwegian LGBT webpage, they have a paragraph basically saying that being "straight passing"* is wrong and you should be ashamed of yourself.

My sexuality isn't a problem, I have never felt shame for my sexuality. But the community makes me feel like because I am not being discriminated against I should just shut up and count my blessings.

*Dressing, passing like a straight person

If "dressing like a straight person" is passing, I could be passing all the time and not realizing it because I have no idea what the Official Sexual Orientation Dress Code is or where to find out. Sounds like bullshit to me.

I don't even know how a straight person dresses that differs from someone bisexual? Is there some kind of rulebook I could buy?

Dammit how can you even be bisexual without knowing your national traditional outfit?

In the US we have to wear a rhinestone cowboy hat and a bolo tie that looks like a little purple triangle. Yours probably involves a horned helmet or something.

RESPECT YOUR HERITAGE (BIRITAGE)

Mine just looks like this, but this explains so much about why others use helmets with different colours... Damn now I have to go to my local helmet store and buy a new one in the correct colours...

Is that like that thing where lesbians are supposed to have short hair and short fingernails? Bwah? Sorry, folks, this femme-ish enjoys her long, almost elbow-length hair and long(er) nails (the nail art possiblities!) rather than short ones (I can't stand my really short nails right now; they feel awful; had a lot of breakage lately). I used to have short hair and looking a pics now makes me think why?????? You look awful! I also don't enjoy the thought of shaved hair areas on my head; you do? Awesome hair choice for you; not for me. I just cut bangs on my hair, I look awesome. :)

I still can't figure out what some lesbian women are doing that make short nails mandatory if you're lesbian unless your fisting your lover all the time (it is possible to not scratch/hurt someone w/long nails during sex and sometimes someone likes being scratched w/long nails......).

I have no idea? There should be a "how to dress your sexuality for dummies" so I can do it right.*

I do have short hair though... Like this: https://encrypted-tbn0.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcQnIrhx7JMik-iqpkJ0SJM3H9-Bylcz0BBmQu0lNkySQPjZ4aKbBA

I did not know that was something that says I am gay? I just cut my hair short because it fits me better...

I got long nails though, I have no problems doing sexual stuff with my hands long nails and all...

*That was a joke if it wasn't clear enough.

I get how the OP feels, honestly. It can be difficult to be accepted into the community if you have "passing" privilege (or if other people think you do), and that can really affect the way it feels to be involved in community events and such.

I have no advice, OP, but you're not alone.

Oh and when it is added that the reason to why I am "passing as straight" is because I am somehow brainwashed into wanting to dress and act like the majority... It can't just be because that is how my personality and dress style is?

No need for advice:) I just wanted to see if I wasn't alone in felling like I am on the outside looking in.

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