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fandomsecrets2013-02-20 06:47 pm
case) wrote in fandomsecrets2013-02-20 06:47 pm
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⌈ Secret Post #2241 ⌋
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Re: "It offends me when people say they'll pray for me" (redux)
More specifically I grew up with a very religious mother and her friends, and a "culturally" religious dad's side of the family. Mom and I went to church, dad slept.
Whenever my mom or one of her friends says they'll pray for me, I know they mean it only in a positive way, in that they just want good things to happen to me. The only time I get uncomfortable is when mom tries to push me back into "the fold" as it were by saying good things happening to me are PROOF of God's existence (note that I have never said anything one way or another about God's existence, only that it was irrelevant to me) but that's really quite different from just "my prayers are with you" innit?
Whenever someone from my dad's side of the family says it, I get irritated, because it's usually condescending (neither my dad nor my aunt are really receptive of 'different' -- I mean, okay, neither is my mom but she's far more willing to let it slide because she prioritizes different things.)
It's definitely a context thing. My mother is super judgmental, but she loves people regardless of how she feels about their politics or orientation or whatever else she doesn't agree with. Not exactly great, but better than my dad, who is super judgmental and would really rather gay liberals would just disappear so they can stop ruining his life by existing. So my reactions to the whole prayer thing definitely have a lot to do with the kind of person who's saying it.