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⌈ Secret Post #2244 ⌋

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Dating & religious beliefs

[(Anonymous)]

Hey, F!S
I have a date soon! My first ever date. I'm so excited! :) The guy seems nice and pretty laid-back.

But... there's a problem. See, I just checked the guy's FB page, and apparently he's an atheist, and a big fan of Dawkins. I have no problem with him being an atheist; people should be free to believe (or not believe) whatever they want.

What I'm worried about is whether he'll have a problem with me being a Christian. What if he thinks less of me for being a theist (and a Christian, to boot)? What if he thinks I'm ignorant or stupid?

Have any of you ever dated someone with a different set of beliefs or worldview to your own? How did that work out for you?

Re: Dating & religious beliefs

[(Anonymous)]

If he has a problem with you being Christian he isn't worth dating, plain and simple. And this is coming from an atheist.

Re: Dating & religious beliefs

[(Anonymous)]

If he's the kind of person who thinks that all Christians are stupid or thinks you're ignorant - if he can't deal with Christianity - tell him to fuck off

Re: Dating & religious beliefs

[(Anonymous)]

even if he fully accepts your beliefs, and you accept his, it's bound to cause discord at some point. but unless you're looking at some kind of long-term thing with him, i wouldn't worry about it. if religion comes up at all, just change the subject.

Re: Dating & religious beliefs

[(Anonymous)]

hmmm yeah i'm not thinking about a long-term thing yet (it's only the first date!)

i just thought it would be a good idea to get out there and start meeting people. i'm incredibly shy IRL, but i've finally started getting some confidence back! :D

guess i'll cross that barrier when i get to it, eh?

Re: Dating & religious beliefs

[caecilia]

I'm an atheist and I'd date a religious person. Religion doesn't matter to me as much as morals and general...lifestyle, I guess? If he thinks Christian = ignorant and stupid then he is pretty ignorant and stupid, and not worth dating. So good luck!

Re: Dating & religious beliefs

[(Anonymous)]

Maybe have some light conversation with him if the first few dates go well on how you're a christian and is that okay with him? try not to get into any actual discussions on if theism is correct or not.

If he's a decent guy he shouldn't have a problem with your belief. He may think less of you at first, but hopefully you can prove him wrong.


- this is from an atheist who dated a pagan. It didn't end up working out for other reasons (she was vegetarian, I wasn't although I eat sustainably, this was the deal breaker for her). I ignored the fact she was a pagan, well, accepted 'cause she had to do things every now and then and certainly had ideas I considered....odd...but she didn't do or say anything stupid (like autism being caused by vaccinations)

Re: Dating & religious beliefs

[(Anonymous)]

AYRT
thanks for the advice!

and I'm sorry to hear your relationship didn't work out. i hope you're happier now! :)

also: completely off-topic, but the anti-vax movement literally angers me. penicillin is there for a reason, why would you want to risk the lives of yourself and everyone around you...

Re: Dating & religious beliefs

[(Anonymous)]

I guess it depends on what kind of Christian you are. Just "christian" doesn't say much, just as saying he's an atheist doesn't say much. But since he's a fan of Richard Dawkins, it's likely he's not a big fan of religious institutions, but he doesn't necessarily have anything against spirituality.

Truth is, you're never going to agree entirely with a partner, it just depends on how important that disagreement is to you. I'd have a lot of difficulty seeing eye-to-eye with anyone religious. Spiritual, that's a bit different. But religion is more of a turn-off than most things for me.