[ SECRET POST #2249 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2249 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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02.
[Otoyomegatari]


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03.
[Girls und Panzer]


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04.
[My Little Pony: Friendship Is Magic]


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05.
[Monster High]


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06.
[My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic]


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07.
[Jackass 3D]


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08.
[Paranatural]


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09.
[Angelina Jolie]


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10.
[Der Ring des Nibelungen]


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11.
[Mary Shelley's Frankenhole]


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12.
[Medium]


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13.
[The Americans]


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14.
[The Mindy Project]


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15.
[5Dolls, T-ARA]


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16.
[A Good Day To Die Hard]


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17.
[Harry Potter]



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18. http://i45.tinypic.com/2v0bjpd.jpg
[linked for porn, Spartacus: Vengeance]


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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

Have you ever met someone who you thought you could be really great friends with and you got along really well and then they sort of...stopped contacting you? like, they sort of dropped off the face of the earth? because I have. I've been pretty lonely for a long time; the few friends I have aren't in the same country. Then I met this person and it was so great to have someone that I could talk to and be excited to hang out with and then it didn't go anywhere. I really thought things would turn around for me and I'd be able to have a group of friends with similar interests, but alas.

I have no reason to believe they went away because of me, personally; I really just think they have their own lives and circumstances just didn't match. I'm ok with that. It's just the feeling of having something I really, really wanted being dangled in front of my face and then yanked away. Like, wtf, life? It's fucking frustrating.

[diet_poison]

=(

I've had similar things happen, not exactly the same though. But. Yeah.

*hugs*

[(Anonymous)]

I've... been that friend :/

[(Anonymous)]

me too

[(Anonymous)]

out of curiosity, what were your reasons? if you want to tell, that is.

[(Anonymous)]

Me too. :(

For me, I tend to be nervous about contacting people. I worry that it might be a bad time, or that I'm being annoying. And then once it feels like it's been too long since I've been in touch with them, I also feel increasingly guilty about not contacting them sooner, until eventually just thinking about them makes me feel sick with guilt and anxiety. And so I just don't even try because it feels too overwhelming. Sorry. :(

There's a reason my best (and currently only) friend is the one who's most persistent about keeping in contact with the people he knows/knew.

[(Anonymous)]

Went through something similar this week and.. it sucks. Only in my case they're still around, but don't seem to show interest in me, or maybe I'm imagining it. Anyway, I feel your pain. :(

[republicanism]

have you tried contacting them again? personally i can be somewhat aloof and will often not initiate hang-outs myself, but that doesn't mean i don't want to hang out.

you should give it a shot. if you think about it the fear of rejection is probably outweighed by the possibility of friendship, right?

[(Anonymous)]

I did for some time, but stopped after a while because they didn't respond. I dunno why; i suspect their cellphone was faulty and I think by now they changed it (they told me they were thinking about doing that). but in the end waiting for them to respond and thinking they were avoiding me made me too nervous.

[republicanism]

this actually bums me out. everyone deserves a buddy they can hang out with. if you don't mind me asking, have you ever gone to any clubs or organizations around your community to meet some folks? i have no idea what your situation is but even volunteer work can lead you to meeting some new people you might click with.

[(Anonymous)]

I have thought about volunteering. I mean, I'm in college and it's not like I can't talk to people at all, it's just this person was one of those friends, you know?

But yeah, i definitely gotta stop stalling on seeing what the volunteering or on-campus jobs are.

I gotta thank you though; it's nice to be able to talk this out with someone. it really helps.

[republicanism]

no problem. yeah I would definitely check out some of the student organizations. if you have a specific interest then there might even be a club for it full of people who are into the same stuff that you are. and plenty of people join clubs to make friends, anyway, so oftentimes they do activities and events just so members can get to know eachother. I joined a lot of weird shit freshman year and this is true for basically any group you could think of. keep looking & I'm sure you'll find some people you like!

[republicanism]

also, feel free to keep me posted on how things work out. since we have conversed i now feel invested.
if you feel awkward going into new things, don't worry about it. trust me, i was PAINFULLY UNCOOL in high school and have now successfully tricked people into thinking otherwise. it can be done.

[(Anonymous)]

I was talking to my best friend about this earlier tonight. We're not sure if another of our friend is aware that she comes off as no longer wanting to be friends with us since she never calls us or texts us. She also doesn't answer our texts very much. Maybe she is unaware and is just busy or doesn't think she needs to be in contact with us as much, but whatever the reason, we decided we should talk to her about it.