[ SECRET POST #2254 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2254 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Secrets Left to Post: 03 pages, 058 secrets from Secret Submission Post #322.
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Comments

Re: RANT RANT RANT

[(Anonymous)]

Is this person a friend? Boyfriend? He sounds like a real ass. There is nothing cute about fears stemming from abuse. Nothing. And you are not wrong to be pissed off at this person for treating it like that. If he's your friend, I'd suggest dropping his ass. If he's your SO, I'd have a talk with him about how fucking uncaring he was to your past/emotions.

Re: RANT RANT RANT

[(Anonymous)]

I'm sorry, I didn't read over the rant before I posted it and I didn't realize how fragmented it sounded. He's my boyfriend, and I love him, and usually he's very sensitive and understanding of these things. I'm just very torn over this because on the one hand

He might be thinking I'm just making excuses because college is scary

He might be thinking that by playing my fears lightly he'll help me get over them (and sometimes this does help with other things)

but on the other

He just never gets worldviews he hasn't experienced. He doesn't understand the sort of mentalities that come with being poor and on your own, he doesn't understand that getting through life isn't just about grabbing the things you want. He just thinks it is because his money and upbringing have allowed that to happen.

He is actually very understanding and sensitive THAT I'm sensitive, he just doesn't understand my fears. A lot of them are sort of unfounded and I know that and I know I should work past them, but sometimes we come to a point where I think the things I've learned are rational and fair and he doesn't get them because he's had a cushy life and he thinks I'm paranoid and my worldview is warped by abuse and his ease of life has given him clarity of mind or whatever. Just makes me want to tear my hear out.

Thank you for reading that. It made me feel better. :)

Re: RANT RANT RANT

[(Anonymous)]

I agree, OP, and it really sucks to have your experiences laughed at, especially when they involve things like foster care which've made a deep impact on your life. But yeah, as someone who comes from an affluent background and used to be really awful at empathy (and hey, I'm still working on it at 20) because I just had no idea how the world worked, I'm going to go with second anon and say that from your description of him in your second comment, it was just an honest moment of him not thinking. As opposed to him being an overtly malicious arsehole all of the time, which would be a totally different kettle of fish.

I'm not saying your rant wasn't justified or your feelings weren't valid; you have every right to be upset. If telling him he upset you doesn't work, try asking him how he would feel if, say, you made fun of (insert something equally formative here). That always brings me down a peg.