[ SECRET POST #2256 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2256 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[The Most Popular Girls In School]


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[Rust and Bone]


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[My Mad Fat Diary]


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[Sailor Moon]


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[Harvest Moon: A New Beginning]


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[American Horror Story Asylum]


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[Homestuck]


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[DC Comics]


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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 01 pages, 021 secrets from Secret Submission Post #322.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 1 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

Re: Best friend/bisexuality drama

[(Anonymous)]

That's what I don't get. Her feelings for him have ZERO to do with them. Sure, she's their friend (at least they claim to be friends, although I'm starting to question that at this point) but they're not her, and who she dates really has no bearing on their lives.

They've all known they were gay since they were kids, and she thought she was too and is just now questioning things, so maybe it makes them feel insecure? Like "this happened to her and maybe it could happen to me, too, so maybe I'm not as sure about things as I thought I was" or something like that, I guess. Which to me is not a big deal since I've been questioning pretty much as long as I can remember, but I guess it might freak them out to feel like maybe there's some uncertainty there? (But of course I have no idea what's actually going through their heads so this is all just speculation on my part.)

As for the "sexuality is not black and white" thing, anytime that concept has been brought it up they just dismiss it, like it's something so ridiculous it's not even worth talking about.

The whole thing is just really frustrating me.

Re: Best friend/bisexuality drama

[(Anonymous)]

ayrt

Ahh, ok. I'm curious if you've ever brought up the self-questioning part to any one of them... I'm bi, too, but I have to admit that ime, the majority of people who have brought up "sexuality is not black and white" (which I do agree on) were thinking of that grayness in terms of being life phases (oh, lots of school girls get a little crush on female friends!) and were hoping I would "eventually choose", specifically heterosexuality. So I have a bit of a kneejerk reaction when it comes up and have to remind myself to listen to the context. No idea if that's what's happening with your friends.

And I think it's not a totally unheard-of experience to have this line of questioning happen in a group of gay friends. Happened to a friend of one of my siblings (but afaik they were more like "Wha? ...Huh. Ok."). And I apologize for my gratuitous comic examples, but the series Dykes to Watch Out For has a lesbian character who, after finding herself interested in a man, has to figure out how this fits in with her identity, with the attendant criticisms/acceptances/etc from others, eventually deciding on "bisexual lesbian" -- an arc about which the author writes was her "barely keep[ing] up" with different lesbian self-identities but which she saw and wanted to address.

...Forgot about it until now, but there's even a strip where two of that character's friends talk about the feeling of betrayal (can't find the strip online and don't have a way to get it online atm); one argues that she feels left in the lurch because the friend will get approval and support from everyone else in the world in the new relationship that they won't necessarily ever get themselves, and just how different her life will be. More speculation, I realize... I don't know if these are the sorts of things you want to ask any of the non-supportive friends about, to understand what's going on, or if these are even possibly in the ballpark.

Hang in there :(