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Well, I think you're taking 'having sex' to mean they want it. Asexuality is simply the lack of sexual attraction to any gender. Asexuals who are in relationships with regular sexuals are going to have sex, as that is a part of being in a relationship.

I'm a hard 0 on the sex-o-meter. I do, however, have sex with my partner because he is sexual and I want to make him happy. Compromise is part of a healthy relationship and all that jazz.

Asexuality is simply the lack of sexual attraction to any gender.

No but that's what I'm trying to say. I get that and that's why I'm confused because I'm not even sure what SEXUAL ATTRACTION is.

I tried looking up an explanation of it and what I found was that sexual attraction means looking at someone and wanting to have sex with them. BUT I can already say that I don't look at ANYONE and want to have sex with them because I know that I don't want to have sex with ANYONE no matter who they are.

Also what about things like people saying they're not asexual but they have a low sex drive and they never want to have sex with anyone? How is that any different if being asexual means not having sexual attraction and sexual attraction means wanting to have sex with a specific person and they don't want to have sex with anyone? Wouldn't that mean they ARE asexual?

Maybe I'm saying it all wrong or maybe I'm just dumb but I just don't understand how all these things are different.

NAYRT

I don't think this is at all what the OP is talking about. I think the issue is that they're not sure what the definition of "sexual attraction" is, not whether or not someone is having sex, wanted or not--though I hope to hell it's the former because regardless of their reasons for wanting it (which include "to make my partner happy"), no one, asexual or otherwise, should be having sex that they don't want to be having because that's called rape.

Asexuals who are in relationships with regular sexuals are going to have sex, as that is a part of being in a relationship.

First, what are "regular sexuals"? And no, it doesn't have to be "part of being in a relationship".

Completely new anon!

Some asexuals don't feel very strongly either way about sex; it's not something they'll actively seek out, but don't mind if they do it either. Does that make sense?

AYRT

Yeah, I totally get that. If you don't care about it either way and you want to do it to make your partner happy, go for it. It just seemed to me like the person I was replying to was trying to say that it was a requirement for being in a relationship, and it's definitely not. The obvious example is if both people are asexual, but even if one person was asexual and the partner wasn't, they could get their sexual needs met outside the relationship (hopefully with their partner's knowledge/consent), or even if neither person is asexual there are myriad reasons why people would be in a relationship that doesn't include sex. But then I guess that gets into what is and isn't considered "a relationship," and that's a whole other issue.

ayrt

Oh that makes sense then and agree with you there. Looks like we're on the same page then!

Sex is part of a relationship. Regular sexuals are anyone who isn't asexual-Hetero, Homo, Bi, etc. It is far, far more likely to end up with a sexual person than an asexual one, and to think "Oh, if he/she loves me she'll give up sex period and forever because I'm asexual!" is just not realistic. At all.

Way to completely miss the point.

Way to get overly offended over nothing

Not offended, just annoyed at an apparent lack of reading comprehension.

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