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⌈ Secret Post #2264 ⌋

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[Criminal Minds, Dharma & Greg]

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[Teen Wolf/Colton Haynes]

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[Alex and Emma Watson]

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[Anthony Bourdain and Guy Fieri]

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[World of Warcraft]

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[Kuroko no Basket]

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[Les Miserables]

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[Psycho Pass]

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[Journey Into Mystery]

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15. [SPOILERS for Buffy]

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16. [SPOILERS for Spartacus]
[WARNING for rape]

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17. [WARNING for child abuse]
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[Kuroshitsuji; linked for (obvious) child abuse, animated]

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18. [WARNING for incest]

[Revolution]

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19. [WARNING for rape/abuse]

[Assassin's Creed 3]

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It matters, but it's not magic.

Not intending to be offensive or hurtful does not magically make what you've done not offensive or hurtful, and if somebody is offended or hurt by what you did, own your fucking shit.

I'm willing to forgive people who genuinely did not intend to come off as offensive or hurtful and are sorry that they did, but the moment they tell me that I shouldn't be offended or hurt by what they've said because they didn't "intend" it to be offensive or hurtful, I'm done.

Are you one of those people who, when someone says "I'm sorry I didn't mean to be offensive", gets all pissy and throws a shitfit because they interpret it as "I don't care"? Because you sound like one of those.

No? Why would I get mad at somebody when that is a perfectly acceptable reaction (and one I've had myself when I said something I didn't know was offensive)? I mean, if somebody says, "Hey, what you said is offensive because of [reason]," what other acceptable reaction would you have besides, "Sorry, I didn't mean to come off that way," and rephrasing yourself or asking what a non-offensive term/phrase would be?

talk about knee-jerk man

sounds to me like OP knows all this and you are reacting to something that is really not there

You might be right, but I wasn't directing it at the OP, but rather others who think that, "intent matters" means something like, "If I didn't intend this to be offensive or hurtful, then it's not," and that's simply not true. Finding out somebody's intent is important in these situations because it gives you an idea of what you can do to help them correct what they've said, but their intent does not make their comments any less subject to correction. And I think that's an important fact people - not just the OP - need to keep in mind.

It says a lot though that you replied to OP with this sentiment that wasn't supposed to be directed at them...

I find that a lot of people who are that knee-jerk and angry about "intent is not magic!!!" are just kind of extreme about it. idk

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