[ SECRET POST #2267 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2267 ⌋

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah, I remember the feelings from the week of my life when I thought I was a lesbian since I wasn't interested in guys. Asexuality is pretty damn easy to live with compared to that.

But I've never told my family. I've never told my friends. I nod and giggle along to the jokes people at work make about my meeting some guy and having babies.

I've never told them because I simply don't want to be the one trying to explain the concept of not being interested in anyone ever and being perfectly happy that way. I don't want to explain, fifty times over, that yes it is really possible. I don't want for them to discuss my "made-up" sexual orientation behind my back. I don't want them to start coming up with theories about what terrible abuse or rape I suffered to make me this way. I don't want them to pity me. I don't want them to start looking for clues about me really being a lesbian.

I would never, ever compare the experience of being asexual with that of queer and trans* people. But it being less threatening in the eye of the heterosexual paradigm does not mean that it is bunnies and flowers to be out and open about it.

[(Anonymous)]

Pretty much why I stopped mentioning it to people. I can appreciate pretty people of both genders, so I'm pretty good at squeeing along with people and I've never met anyone who talked about sexual fantasies or expected that of me, so all has been well.

[(Anonymous)]

It's only not bunnies and flowers because it's misogyny at work, attacking women who don't show they want to have sex whenever men want and men who don't exude sexual desire and prowess toward women is pretty much what it's about. It sucks, and I'm sorry you deal with it.

I'm a lesbian. I'm sorry thinking of being someone like me scared you so bad. That's not even really snarky, it's legitimate -- coming out was the hardest thing I'd ever done, and I'd bitten my tongue for years. I wish I could say it turned out happily, and that I didn't still have battles to face. But for me, coming out was the right choice, and living while out is the right choice.

Although let me tell you -- I still do get asked by ignorant people (some of them family members) if it was a sexual assault that made me this way, or if it's made up, etc.