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Secondhand embarrassment in media

[badass_tiger]

Have you ever felt such intense secondhand embarrassment from a book/movie/episode that you just couldn't finish it?

I'm reading Anansi Boys from Neil Gaiman right now. I'm on chapter five and I'm seriously debating giving it away I don't think I can handle the embarrassment Fat Charlie is facing.

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[(Anonymous)]

All the time. All the FUCKING time. Like, I really can't get across how frequently that happens to me.

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[loracarol]

That's funny, I couldn't finish Anansi Boys for the same reason.

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[inkdust]

I don't think I've encountered something I couldn't finish, because I'm really inclined to stick it out, but secondhand embarrassment is one of the worst things for me in media. I have bad memories of a number of things because of it, and there are things I never want to watch again because of it even if I enjoyed other parts. Like Bridesmaids.

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[caecilia]

I had this all the time when I was little but I can't remember any specifics.

Catch ya later... joban.

[(Anonymous)]

I couldn't watch more than three minutes of either Borat or Bruno before I felt myself wanting to turn inside out. I also felt myself sinking into the couch cushions watching I Love You, Man recently, because Paul Rudd's character is my painful-awkwardsauce soul-twin. If he weren't otherwise so adorable and I hadn't known it was going to turn out all right in the end, I probably couldn't have dealt.

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[fingalsanteater]

I could still finish, but I've looked away. I get more second hand-embarrassment from people doing poorly at being funny (doing bad stand-up, etc.) than anything. Ru Paul's Drag Race was especially bad for this recently. Some of the queens were so, so bad at being funny in the Ru Roast episode that I had to stop watching during those parts. I could feel the crickets chirping in my soul.

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[(Anonymous)]

There's an entire sub-genre of "comedy" movies I can't watch for exactly this reason. Sorry if I don't want to watch people constantly do exactly the wrong thing for two hours straight. Uggggghhhh.

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[(Anonymous)]

This is me with almost everything I read/watch (Most recently, Lizzie Bennet Diaries). It's a problem? It's been a while since I read it, but I remember being embarrassed and I'm pretty sure the ending of Anansi Boys is worth the pain :)

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[forgottenjester]

I've only had to do that once. It was some comedy improv show where friends dare each other to do things? I don't know. My dad really liked it and watched me to watch it with him. I couldn't. It was just way, way, way too much. I can't even be in the same room if he's watching it. I just can't.

Most of the time it's not that bad. Normally I just come across ones that make me want to pause it and then come back later. The worst ones make me "turtle", which is where I pause it, hide under a blanket, and then force myself to watch it after I'm done being a dork.

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[intrigueing]

Alllllll the time.

It's mostly from unintentionally cringeworthy stuff where it's just so painfully obvious the writer genuinely thinks this thing s/he wrote is Really Cool and Badass but it's just so utterly grating and dumb instead that I have to turn off the TV to avoid dying of shame.

But I have a weird relationship with cringe comedy: some of it I love, some I literally cannot bear to watch. Even in the same show -- there are certain scenes of 30 Rock and Frasier that I CANNOT watch, whereas other equally-embarrassing scenes make my cackle.

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[(Anonymous)]

I've never been unable to finish something because of this, but I'm always muting/pausing/fast-forwarding/putting it down/changing the channel/leaving the room because of second-hand embarrassment. Sometimes I actually have to take a deep breath and remind myself that this is fiction and I need to put put some distance between me and the characters for the duration of the embarrassing moment and picture the actors/writer/etc.

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[dreemyweird]

I feel it constantly. IDK why, it's my default state when I watch/read something. It's not pure, though; usually it's combined with either happiness or contempt, so I don't concentrate on it much. It's certainly not enough to make me stop reading/watching (I don't think anything but a fainting fit is enough to prevent me from reading a book until the end), but I do cringe at literally everything which may in be considered awkward in any way.

Right now I'm getting tons of secondhand embarrassment for the author of the novel I'm reading. His language is hideous. Like, he has this erotic scene which goes as follows:
"...and he nuzzled up her vagina with his head, his beard, his face"

HE WHAT
WHAT EVEN
I just facepalmed and started laughing uncontrollably.

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[(Anonymous)]

I mainly get severe secondhand-embarrassment from things that are UNintentionally cringeworthy. (I don't really go for cringe comedy for this reason, though.) I used to be REALLY sensitive to it as a kid, so much that I couldn't stand to watch musical numbers or emotional moments in animated movies because it hit my self-consciousness squick so hard, so I'd talk during those scenes if someone was with me, or look away and pretend to be rummaging around and not looking at the screen.

It still happens to me sometimes, though not as frequently. The last time I had to mute and close my eyes during a scene to avoid feeling like my insides would shrivel up with embarrassment was the ending of "Asylum of the Daleks" *shudder*

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[meredith44]

All the time. It's why I don't tend to watch comedic movies and television shows. (I like the dry humor of a show such as Better Off Ted, but I don't really watch any "standard" humor.)

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[(Anonymous)]

Oh god yes. The most recent one was the episode of Castle that was done in a 'documentary' style, I was faring better than my SO but after about 10 mins in we were both going NOPE NOPE NOPE and just skimmed through it catching the important parts and then stopped it.

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[(Anonymous)]

Frasier. And Seinfeld. For slightly different reasons. I liked the characters on Frasier, but I couldn't stand to watch them get themselves into "funny" situations because they assumed they knew everything, then be "stuck" because of social norms that would be violated if they tried to sort things out. With Seinfeld, they were just horrible people doing horrible things, either on purpose or by accident. Elaine especially made me want to hide under the covers and somehow simultaneously yell at her. *twitch*

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[unicornherds]

ALL THE TIME FOR EVER AND EVERYTHING.

I was just reading this fic that people kept reccing all over the place but cannot get through it because of the awkward embarrassment. It involves singing. And playing a guitar. In public. I can't handle that shit - not in real life and not in fic. I just can't.

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[othellia]

Not from books, but definitely from movies/episodes. Although I usually can finish it, I just either look away, mute the scene, or fast forward until it's done.

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[silverau]

I get really bad second-hand embarrassment from Rob Zombie. IDEK why.

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[cloud_riven]

Pretty much the entirety of Video Game High School, except I finished it.

Also, there are whole chapters of Lorenzo Carcaterra's Sleepers I had to skip, especially the final parts involving the trial.

I gave up Kashimashi Girl Meets Girl almost immediately.

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[(Anonymous)]

This is the reason I don't watch sitcoms, so many cringe-worthy situations. And those "comedy" movies where the main character is constantly making an ass of themselves and it's supposed to be funny.

Me and Ben Stiller movies really don't get along at all.

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[charming_stranger]

I tend to feel this way a lot while watching Downton Abbey, for some reason. It's when people unknowingly commit social faux pas in a fish-out-of-water situation (hello early Matthew!) that I usually get really uncomfortable; Thomas is another common cause, although I'm not sure why.

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[(Anonymous)]

Sometimes I have to skip ahead past a part.

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[(Anonymous)]

All the time. It's why I actually need someone to watch a tv show/movie with me at home since I'll pause partway through and decide not to continue like...a day later.