[ SECRET POST #2273 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2273 ⌋

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Comments

Re: When and How Did You Realize You Were Queer

[pantswarrior]

If ace counts for purposes of this discussion, it was when I was in my mid-20s and hanging out with a bunch of friends of similar age on IRC in the middle of the night, when the subject of masturbation habits came up. Until that point, I seriously thought that masturbation was something that most (but not all) teenagers tried a couple times when they hit puberty, then never did again, and it was just something people joked about. Because, uh, I'd never done it, or had the urge to, or understood why anyone would when it seemed to have a lot of potential for embarrassment.

So I basically went "...Wait. ALL YOU GUYS actually do masturbate?" And they're like "Uh, yeah. Don't you?"

And I started thinking about it, and realized that not only were people serious about masturbation, but they'd been serious about having sexual fantasies. I never thought about that sort of thing either, and assumed people were just goofing around. And as many times as I'd thought I'd had crushes on someone, I'd never EVER encountered anyone who made me think about sex. I liked looking at them and talking to them and maybe snuggling with them, but sex? Nope. Also had thought that the "I know it's really really hard, but wait until you're married!" stuff was an exaggeration, because I certainly didn't have a problem with the idea.

And this led to me figuring out I was bi-romantic (borderline aromantic, though, really), because I had always just sort of assumed I was straight, and therefore when I had crushes on guys, I recognized them as such. But upon closer examination, I realized I'd felt the exact same way about certain girls too, but since there was no sexual component AND I assumed I was straight, I'd never made the connection that it might be romantic but non-sexual.