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⌈ Secret Post #2276 ⌋

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[The Vikings]

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[Homestuck]

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[Zettai Karen Children, The Unlimited Hyoubu Kyousuke]

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[From Eroica With Love]

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[Homestuck]

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[Zero Escape]

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[Community]

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Social anxiety doesn't really give you the luxury of deciding when you are and are not expected to interact with people. The fear that you must is always there.

The fear that you have to respond may be there, but there comes a time, if you actually want to be one of those rare flowers who deal with your anxiety, that you have to sit yourself down and say "this is how I feel, but it's not how it is," and keep fucking repeating it until you can believe it or are so tired of doing it that you move on to other things.

You sound like one of those enlightened individuals who knows things about things and enjoys telling people how to suck it up and be normal.

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Argh, shut up! "Rare flowers", huh? I am pretty sure that everyone with anxiety tries damn hard to "deal with it" (often in an unproductive way - trying to force yourself too much sometimes only makes it worse). Yes, you sometimes you have to just suck it up and do things until you get at least used enough to it that it's not as hard, but I've found that I have to pick my battles. I work hardest on the things that are most vital, and save my energy by letting myself avoid things that are unimportant but will cause a ton of anxiety. And let's be honest, fanfic is not the most important thing most people have going on in their lives.

Bootstraps, bootstraps.

idek what this means in SJW terms but you just made me think of Pirates of the Caribbean.

"So, we strapped a cannon to Bootstraps' bootstraps--"
"Hehe. Bootstraps' bootstraps."

I don't think it's SJW. I think it's "pick yourself up by your bootstraps."

The phrase "bootstraps!" is an SJW term to shut down anybody who dares to throw out the notion that some things take work that you have to be willing to do if you want to hope to see change.

Well put.

SJWs ruin EVERYTHING. :

I'm all for encouraging people to take initiative. I'm not for telling people to be "a rare flower who actually deals with their anxiety."

It is also literally said by people who actually think poor people wouldn't be poor if they just worked harder.

SJWs may use it all the time, but so do ignorant assholes.

Yes, but like above anon explained, SJWs have adopted it as a buzzword.

I still like my version better.

I like your version better too. IDG how it went to what the buzzword means? (I'd never seen it with the sjw meaning either)

It's not really that the concept went to meaning how the SJWers mean it. "Pick yourself up by your bootstraps" is still a valid phrase that means what the rest of us know it means about working hard and pulling yourself up on your own steam.

The problem is that social justice warriors hate that concept. So any time anyone suggests that maybe people need to work a little harder, all they're meaning when they bleat "bootstraps!!" is "You're making that shitty bootstrap argument! HDU!"

Bootstrap Bill, YOU ARE A LIAH!

That is not how it works. I also have social anxiety however it is not as severe as others here. For me the Internet has helped me make friends and helped me a bit with it...along with therapy and Celexa. I no longer take the pill or in therapy but I have been able to hold jobs and my most recent involves walking up to and speaking to strangers.

Every one who has social anxiety does not have it in the same amount or level. It will be harder for some to get over it and it will be easier for some. Every body is different and everyone needs treatment that would fit them and only them. It is not going to go away because some ass on the Net tells them to stop whining.

Right on! Your statement is SO SECONDED.

Rare flowers, huh? I deal with my anxiety all the time; it's a daily, perpetual fight to function. Sometimes I win, and sometimes I lose. But losing the fight sometimes does not mean I or anyone else is not dealing with it. Your definition of "dealing" seems to be "defeating it once and for all". Doesn't work that way. Maybe I'll get better, maybe I'll start to win more fights, maybe one day I'll win enough of them day by day that no one can tell I'm anxious at all. But I'll never actually get to stop fighting.

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