[ SECRET POST #2276 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2276 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[The Vikings]


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[Homestuck]


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[Spartacus]


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[Zettai Karen Children, The Unlimited Hyoubu Kyousuke]


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[From Eroica With Love]


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[Naruto]


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[Homestuck]


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[Ava's Demon]


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[Zero Escape]


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[Colin John Rudd]


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[Once Upon a Time]


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[ASOIAF/Game of Thrones]


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[Community]


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[Evangelion]


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[Discworld]


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[FFIV (Rydia)]


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[Teen Wolf/Harry Potter]


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Notes:

Sorry, late day at work.

Secrets Left to Post: 02 pages, 050 secrets from Secret Submission Post #325.
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Comments

Re: Do you complain a lot?

[anonymouslyyours]

Sometimes, with specific people. I'll feel infuriated and just want someone to sympathize and tell me I'm not overreacting. I will say having someone give me unsolicited advice when I'm venting can feel like they're implying I did something wrong or am unable to handle myself.

What you're describing sounds like a little much though, especially the repetition. Maybe she repeats her stories because she's not getting the reaction she wants and thinks you didn't understand why she was so upset. Generally just agree that whoever she was complaining about was being unreasonable and sympathize a little?

It's kind of a sticky situation because it sounds like she needs an outlet but it's taxing on you to have to provide that for her. If the repetition keeps up try and tactfully let her know that you want to be supportive of her but that it frustrates you to hear her same complaints over and over when she's made it clear there's nothing you can do to help.

Re: Do you complain a lot?

[(Anonymous)]

Yes, that is the part that is most bothersome to me. I don't mind her venting right after work, it's just that she continues it throughout the night, repeating the same ones. It made me feel like she was trying to get ideas for how to fix it, so I started offering ideas for solutions but then she gets angry at me.
It just makes it really uncomfortable because lately I hate even spending time with her.
And then sometimes my dad is in the car and I have to act as a buffer, because he just does not even get that she dislikes suggestions, which ends up being even more stressful as then I have two shouting people to steer into calm waters. D: They are both very, very easily offended so it's just hard and I'm afraid to ask her to cull the venting a bit in case she feels like I'm telling her she is wrong.