[ SECRET POST #2283 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2283 ⌋

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Comments

[othellia]

IDK, if he really does like the movie, tell him that the cartoon is way better. And even if he says he doesn't like cartoons, say it really means a lot to you. Or promise to try out/watch something that he really likes but you don't.

If he refuses to budge on the subject despite your obvious attachment to it just because it's a cartoon, then he's not too much of a boyfriend. :\

[(Anonymous)]

This.

[(Anonymous)]

If he refuses to budge on the subject despite your obvious attachment to it just because it's a cartoon, then he's not too much of a boyfriend. :\

Really? I mean, really? There are so many things involved in having a relationship of any kind with another person. Just because he's OP's boyfriend doesn't mean he has to watch something in a medium he doesn't like. Respecting OP's love of it is far more important.

[othellia]

I'm not saying he has to watch all three seasons of the show. I'm assuming from the secret that he hasn't even given it a chance, so I don't think it's too much to ask your significant other to try something out for 20-40min. Especially when "cartoons" is so broad, encompassing things from Cinderella to Elfen Lied.

[(Anonymous)]

OP did ask and he said no. End of story.

If someone wants to give one of their SO's interests a try, that's fine. If they don't because it's something they have an aversion to, that's fine too. It should never be expected of them as you've implied it should.

[otakugal15]

This. I don't always like my SO's interests and he doesn't always like mine. We either compromise or just leave it alone.

He's tried getting me into 40k, but I have zero interest in it and he understands and leaves me alone about it. I still listen to him though. I like ponies and Monster High. He watches them with me, but he's not especially interested in them. And that's fine. But he'll listen to me ramble.

But we still have plenty we DO like together. That, and respecting each others interests we don't necessarily like, is what fucking counts. HAVING to like EVERYTHING or watch something we hate puts a strain on things.

[othellia]

Except for, from what the OP said, they don't have many things that they like/watch together? And it's not like he has a total disinterest in the source material since he likes the movie; he just doesn't like the fact that it's a cartoon.

I agree that couples shouldn't have to do everything together or love all the same things together, but it seems like OP and her boyfriend are having the opposite problem, what with the boyfriend really happy that they're watching this movie together and OP scared to say otherwise (which, as other people have said, isn't very healthy either).

[(Anonymous)]

Absolutely refusing to try it is a pretty limp way of respecting OP's love.

[(Anonymous)]

Searching for another medium that he likes so they can share it together is above and beyond respect for her love of something. It isn't his fault that OP doesn't like it and lied about it.

[insanenoodlyguy]

You have a fucked up sense of values if somebody not wanting to watch a cartoon is what defines a relationships health.

So far all we know about the guy is he likes a shitty movie and bought her a present regarding a fandom he had little interest in but knows OP likes.

That's one minor negative and a big positive.

[otakugal15]

This.

[(Anonymous)]

It's a symptom of a bigger problem if he just blows off his girlfriend's interests.

[(Anonymous)]

He didn't blow off OP's interests. He bought the movie for her so they could watch it together.

[(Anonymous)]

one interest. It is one show she digs. unless her whole life revolves around this one show, he is not blowing off all her interests just by not wanting to watch one piece of media. and if this is the only interest she got, they got bigger problems.

[dancing_clown]

IKR? WTF is wrong with people? "Boyfriend doesn't want to watch your cartoon?! LOSER! Dump his ass!" Fuck that noise.

[insanenoodlyguy]

Stop giving shit advice.

This isn't about what he does or doesn't like. IF he doesn't like cartoons, he doesn't like cartoons. That is not a deal breaker.

It's the lying and the pointless suffering through something you don't like for no reason, and the Op's crippling sense of obligation that are actual problems.

I don't care for Wendyvanity on youtube, Chard loves her. Somehow this has never impacted the relationship.

[chardmonster]

http://youtu.be/wCI96M2CYiY

[insanenoodlyguy]

ARGH I'M LEAVING YOU

[othellia]

I guess it's because I just don't see "cartoons" as a genre like some people do? IDK, it just seems like someone loving the Star Wars prequels and refusing to watch even the first ten minutes of the original trilogy because they don't like "old movies."

I'm not saying he has to watch the whole show before he decides whether to like it or not, but it makes sense to give it a chance. Especially since he already likes something that was based off the original.

(And yes, I do also agree that the OP should be more honest about her feelings.)

[(Anonymous)]

uh. no. not at all. the op shouldn't have to be watching a shitty movie, but neither should the boyfriend have to watch something he doesn't want to watch even if the reason for it is super flawed. i mean, for fuck's sake, it is a tv show. if that is your marker for whether or not someone is a shitty boyfriend, you gotta sort out your priorities.

[cadremage]

Nooooooo. No no no. That's not how it works. If one partner is not interested in something that the other partner enjoys, then there is nothing wrong with that.

I'll give you an example: I love the 'Shadowmarch' series by Tad Williams. I gushed about it to my husband, who is a fellow fantasy fan. He tried the first book and couldn't get into it. It would be completely shitty of me to insist that he finish it and finish the series just because it "means something" to me.

OP's boyfriend doesn't like animation, and that's his right. Just as it is OP's right to not like the AtLA movie.