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⌈ Secret Post #2285 ⌋

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[NCIS]

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[Kirk Cameron]

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[Lindsay Lohan, Sean Penn, Sean Bean]

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[MCU/Marvel movies - NOT the comics]

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10. [SPOILERS for Spartacus War of the Damned]

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14. [WARNING for rape]

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[the beatles]

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Ah, I guess it's different for rl friends, too. I should have mentioned that we're--we were--only online friends who'd met once. I don't know if being in physical proximity to her would have made it easier or harder to work this out.

I'm sorry yours had to end so dramatically, especially in a way that dragged your mother into it too. That's really not fair at all.

For us it has a lot to do with something I saw in another recent f!s thread--she's a venter and I'm a fixer. So whenever she tries to tell me her problems, I try to offer solutions, but then she shoots them down and leaves to work on her problems alone and I'm left with all her heavy issues festering inside me and it's infuriating. It sounds stupid and selfish when I write it out like that--she asked me herself "so you blame me for making you feel bad?"--but I just can't handle it. She said she'd stop venting but I don't think she can change that and I don't think she should have to just because I can't deal with it.

She said she would welcome me back with open arms if I chose it, and I think that's the part that hurts most of all. I want to go back. Instead I'm slowly cutting off the ties I have with her, and eventually there'll be nothing left.

I'm sorry for rambling. Thank you. :c

I suppose it probably might be a bit different, yeah, though I don't know about harder vs easier. I'd guess it varies depending on the friendship.

Thanks. It still could have been a lot worse, and my mother dealt with it, but... idk. I just wish she hadn't done that, when it should have been me she confronted about my mistake.

Ahh, I see - that must be really difficult. I generally don't mind people venting to me, but the negativity builds up, doesn't it? :( I don't think you're stupid and selfish for not being able to handle that. From what I understand you're infuriated because you can't help a friend, and also that she keeps on venting, which is, as far as I know, a perfectly natural response.

Oh, damn. :/ Yeah, I can see how that would hurt a lot, because you're in control of how it goes.

But still... you probably are doing the right thing.

It's fine (I've rambled too... oops). I don't mind at all. I just hope things turn out alright, anon. :)

Best of luck!

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