[ SECRET POST #2286 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2286 ⌋

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Comments

[poisonenvy]

I admit that whole thought process makes my skin crawl, but I know tons of guys who want to date a bisexual woman so she can have sex in front of them with another woman. (I get it a lot because I am bisexual, so the amount of dudes who I've slept with and then later were like "So... if I find a girl you like will you do her/have a threesome with me too?")

EDIT: Oh. And kind of related in the skin-crawly aspect of things: When dudes tell me "I'd be so angry if my girlfriend cheated on me with another man, but if she had sex with a woman, I'd be okay with it." Aaarrrrgggg.

[sootyowl]

I'm so sorry that has happened to you. Guys can be such gross pigs sometimes. I've heard guys saying that as well to other women and it's so disrespectful.

That's horrible as well >:| Hearing stories like this always make me doubt the human race and its intelligence.

[(Anonymous)]

First thing: personally I don't mind it, but I can understand how that can be... icky. :S

Second thing: I... don't really understand this? My current boyfriend said he was fine with me sleeping with women, but not with other men - and I don't see why I should be creeped out by that. The "not sleeping with other men" thing in his case was to do with self-image and his belief in what I found attractive about him, rather than because he thought I wouldn't be as emotionally invested in a lesbian relationship. I would have assumed - and did assume - that to be the main reason, even if he hadn't spelled it out in detail to me.

buuuuut yeah I guess maybe that's because open relationship plus consent and information =/= cheating so.... idk, it's probably not even relevant! I suppose cheating implies more of an emotional betrayal? I still don't really get it though (and tbh it would be great if a guy I was with said, "I'd be so angry if my girlfriend cheated on me with another man, but if she had sex with a woman, I'd be okay with it." because, well, good for me).

[poisonenvy]

I just can't help but hearing it as anything other than "Women aren't as threatening as men/women count less as men/women can't actually be really into women, so there's no reason for me to be threatened by this." I get the whole "Well, she can offer you things I can't" aspect of things, in an abstract kind of way, but you very, very rarely hear "I'd be pissed if my boyfriend cheated on me with another woman, but I wouldn't mind if he cheated on me with a dude," whereas I've heard a ton of guys say the opposite.

I'm totally all for open relationships, by the way. I couldn't ever do it (I have trust issues and I'm kind of insecure. I try very hard not to let it enter into my relationships, and think I do a fairly good job most of the time, but I don't think I could if I was like "Oh, my SO is sleeping with this other person. WHAT IF THEY LIKE HER/HIM MORE THAN ME?!"), but I understand that there's a lot of people who can't do monogomy either.

[(Anonymous)]

Allow me to be the first then. Before my husband and I decided we were poly, I straight up told him: "I don't care if you sleep with men, at all. But right now, I have some trust issues concerning other women, so I'd appreciate it if you wouldn't sleep with them."

He agreed, and asked me to only sleep with men for a while. I got over my issues, he got over his, and we decided we were comfortable sleeping with both genders.