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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2013-04-08 06:54 pm

[ SECRET POST #2288 ]


⌈ Secret Post #2288 ⌋

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(Anonymous) 2013-04-08 11:45 pm (UTC)(link)
I remember my boyfriend used to be so embarrassed about asking for kinky play. It was always:


BF: So, May, there's this thing...
ME: Yes?
BF: ...well, it's sort of like...um... and maybe, if you'd... um? Perhaps?
ME: Mm-hmm.
BF: Ok, so there's this thing where you... [blah blah]... and maybe, you'd be, um, willing to try it? Um, maybe?
ME: Oh, you mean [insert kink here]? Yeah, sure, no prob.
BF: *gapes*



Yeah, fandom has ruined me. There's very little I haven't heard of, and even fewer I'd be unwilling to try at least once. *Shrugs*

(Anonymous) 2013-04-08 11:53 pm (UTC)(link)
That's not ruining you, it's expanding your horizons. You don't have to be willing to try them yourself, of course, but being uninformed about types of sex you might potentially enjoy isn't really a good thing.

(Anonymous) 2013-04-09 12:34 am (UTC)(link)
AYRT.

No, it's definitely ruined me. I'm, like, super kinky now and can't date anyone who's unwilling to experiment in the bedroom. My BF is super curious so we got on really well, but I've actually broken up with guys before because they were too, well, vanilla, basically, and unwilling to try new things.

I doubt I'd be as kinky if it weren't for fandom. I've seen a lot of porn, ok, and porn has nothing on fandom when it comes to sex and kinks.

You really don't come back from exposure of that caliber.

So yeah, definitely ruined. But in the very best ways, of course.

(Anonymous) 2013-04-09 03:40 am (UTC)(link)
Semi-similar boat. I'm asexual in terms of desire, but willing to explore sex to make a partner happy, and I can't imagine kink-shaming (or being unwilling to try) anything that didn't involve permanent harm.

(And yes, I can easily imagine having the conversation you describe above.)