[ SECRET POST #2293 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2293 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Comments

[fscom]

02. http://i140.photobucket.com/albums/r29/BlackDove42/secret_blue_zpsf7ec9f28.png

[quantumreality]

Aw, anon! I hope it works out for you guys!

[(Anonymous)]

I don't have any advice to offer, but I really hope that things work out for both of you, anon!

[sootyowl]

You can always try making one. It's they symbolism that counts.

I hope everything works out for you two.

[dethtoll]

all you need is

[(Anonymous)]

Isn't that what an engagement ring is for?

[(Anonymous)]

ha, exactly.

i'll sum up the other responses you'll get to this comment while i'm here.

a. what if they're gay. gay people can't get married. (personal anecdote) stop being heteronormative.

b. you don't HAVE to get married. marriage is, like, the man. we're all against the man, man. let's just not get married and then complain because we want everything that married couples have without getting married. that piece of paper, it's like, giving into the man, man.

c. polyamory. (personal anecdote nobody will actually read)

d. his wife, a horse.

e. _____ privilege _____ _____ _____ oppression _____ _____ paradigm shift _____ yolo.

[tei]

Pretty sure engagement ring anon was trolling, but I have to say point "e" made me laugh.

[(Anonymous)]

Good luck, OP!

In fearful day, in raging night,
With strong hearts full, our souls ignite
When all seems lost in the war of light
Look to the stars, for Hope burns bright!

[elaminator]

This is an adorable secret. I hope things work out for you guys.

[(Anonymous)]

I have to say your male sounds like a real loser. If he's not pulling his weight financially and too much of a wimp to stay in the relationship when it get's difficult, I don't think you're doing yourself any favours keeping him around. You have to do what's best for you, and not let a male drag you down.

[gobbledigook]

The male, it weights down on your femaleness like a scrotum full of concrete. What are you, Mother Theresa of the males? Get rid of the male! Castrate it from your life!

[(Anonymous)]

I love this comment.

[intrigueing]

Oh my god this is one of my favorite comments ever. I actually burst out laughing at the imagery.

0/10

[(Anonymous)]

Needs more righteous indignation.

[(Anonymous)]

Not trying to be the rain on this "awww" thread but I genuinely wonder what your boyfriend thought to accomplish with breaking up?

[logicbutton]

Exactly, if two people live together it's less expensive for both. Maybe he thought that one or both of them would have better job prospects if they weren't tied down?

[(Anonymous)]

My first guess: he feels like he's the cause of the trouble, and if she breaks away from him she might be able to recover without him dragging her down.

It's not necessarily a smart thing to think, but people in bad situations sometimes go overboard on the self-blame.

[(Anonymous)]

Maybe the boyfriend feels like the majority of the debt are his fault? Like, maybe they are his old college loans or something like his medical bills that are putting them in such trouble.

[(Anonymous)]

My first thought when reading this secret was that OP's BF was looking for an excuse and she hasn't given him an out. He's just not that into her. It's sad because there are guys who have courage of their convictions, but when it's been studied, they find men tend to have "exit affairs" rather than just breaking up, because they end relationships in their head months beforehand, and then start finding excuses to break up, often eventually resorting to an affair.

[(Anonymous)]

Yea I really wish there was a little bit more info on the situation for this secret. For all we know it might be the girl who is the cause of so many financial problems, and he wants to break it off to recover himself but trying to do it in a way where it won't hurt her feelings so much.

[(Anonymous)]

Good luck to you guys!

[ex_paola492]

Aww my family and I where on a tight spot like that. We where able to buy groceries thanks to the arts and crafts I did, at least until my bro got got a job (he just graduated college at the time). Have you considered doing something like commissions or something along the lines? At least until things get better for you both? I really hope things get better for you both!

[(Anonymous)]

I don't have a ring for you, but can I give you some anecdotal hope? My parents were in a terrible financial situation when I was a kid. They lost everything, went through bankruptcy, and we ended up homeless until my mom's brother took all six of us in. A lot more has happened since, things even worse than that, but my parents just celebrated their 37th anniversary last week. There are a lot of reasons relationships don't survive, but there are just as many reasons that they do. If you want it, if you both want it, money shouldn't be a reason you don't survive. Get financial counseling. Sit down to figure out what it is about your finances that isn't working. It may be tough, it may cause fights that feel like the end of the world, but it doesn't have to be the end of you as a couple, not if you don't let it.

Good luck!

[gabzillaz]

I hope it works out for you!