[ SECRET POST #2296 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2296 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 03 pages, 056 secrets from Secret Submission Post #328.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

Re: Not OP

[(Anonymous)]

I really hope everyone reads this because it's really good advice. IT'S OKAY FOR FRIENDSHIPS TO HAVE BOUNDARIES. If your only response to a friend complaining is to complain about them, then eventually you're going to become at fault for the friendship deteriorating as well.

When you're so afraid to communicate of course you're going to get mad, your friend isn't psychic and won't know these things are annoying you.

Especially since this isn't really true, from what I've seen. It might be for some people, but for people who literally cannot function "normally", or who can't get their shit together on their own, it seems like it mostly cultivates or exacerbates isolation.

Also this. While I don't think it's other people's jobs to be there 24-7, having everyone in your life ditch you doesn't necessarily serve as a motivation for change for a depressed person.

Re: Not OP

[(Anonymous)]

If your only response to a friend complaining is to complain about them, then eventually you're going to become at fault for the friendship deteriorating as well.

That isn't the only response. That wasn't the response at any point in time. The response was to give up on someone after repeatedly trying to help them when they didn't want to be helped. I have my own life to live. I'm sorry for their problems but they continue to make them for themselves despite many people trying to keep them from doing it.

And the comment itself wasn't complaining about a complainer; it was giving an ANONYMOUS alternate perspective to someone another person's comment. Yes, I implied that I think at least some of it is attention seeking. And if I'd gone into detail or given examples, I'm sure many here would agree with me. But I did not and will not do that because I'm not hear to bash someone or say anything that might give away their identity. This isn't and never was meant to be a hate thread.

Re: Not OP

[(Anonymous)]

AYRT. Sorry my comment wasn't directed at you specifically, I was thinking more about OP of the secret and speaking in general from my own experiences with friends who have issues with communication. I've seen a lot of friendships end because one person got annoyed with another, but all they did in response was talk behind their backs until it festered into complete hatred to the point that the friendship could not be saved.

I also see this a lot in terms of mental illness or if someone is going through a rough time, people tiptoe around that person to the point of getting annoyed that they have to behave that way (whether the person in question asked for it or not.)