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⌈ Secret Post #2300 ⌋

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Comments

from the perspective of someone who was like the op's friend

[(Anonymous)]

Yes, you can get consumed by fandom to an unhealthy degree, but it's often a symptom of other underlying problems (depression, a desperate need to escape a crappy home/school life, actual mental imbalances, etc.).

Like others said above, there's not much other people can do to make you stop. Even inviting you to do other activities is kind of a moot point because you're still thinking about your obsession(s) 24/7; you don't really get into the activities if your mind is elsewhere and you can only thing of how soon this boring stuff can be over so you can go back to the obsession.

Unfortunately, op, this is something that your friend has to acknowledge as a problem before she can get better. All the interventions of the world, all the psychological help, all the yelling, pleading and anything you can think of won't work on her until she realizes how deep in she is. And even then, an actual normal life looks scary after you've clung to something as your lifeline for so long. She might lose interest, she might latch onto something else, who knows! Maybe actual psychiatric help could help her if it's something chemical.

But anyway, the only one who can bring herself out of this cycle is the OP's friend. OP, the best you can do is to try to be there for her, but don't let her drag you down with feelings of impotence and "I've got to save her" mentality.

Just... be available every now and then if she wants to talk, try to be a voice of reason without trying to force her, and - hopefully - when she comes to her senses you'll still be there to resume your friendship. If she's anything like I was when I realized what was going on and finally broke out of it, she'll be embarrassed over her behavior, but grateful that you remained a friend.