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fandomsecrets2013-04-23 07:07 pm
case) wrote in fandomsecrets2013-04-23 07:07 pm
[ SECRET POST #2303 ]
⌈ Secret Post #2303 ⌋
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Re: My little brother...
(Anonymous) 2013-04-24 02:50 am (UTC)(link)...all this talk about not "enabling" his "bad behavior" makes me sad, because a lot of what he's doing sounds more to me like a kid who is very overwhelmed and can't figure out how to communicate it except through actions.
people ignored me when i freaked out when i was younger, when i cried and hurt myself because i was just so panicked and unhappy all the time - and so i didn't get any help. all i learned is that when i am overwhelmed and freaking out and upset i should never bother anyone and instead should just go hurt myself in private.
...probably i'm projecting too much, but. i think if someone seems so upset all the time, there's probably something that's stressing them out or something. idk...
Re: My little brother...
I specifically said that OP, as a seventeen year old child herself, needs to stop acting as the buffer between her brother and her parents. It isn't her job to engage him when he is screaming and throwing things because he doesn't want to eat his vegetables (example up thread if I'm not mistaken). Doing so causes her a large amount of stress and solves absolutely nothing.
If her brother has problems, then I hope he gets the help he needs, but expecting a seventeen year old to provide that kind of help is completely unfair. OP shouldn't expect that of herself, and neither should her parents. Asking someone who shouldn't be handling his discipline/mental health to disengage when he gets out of control =/= ignoring him. It just means that she takes a step back and lets the people who SHOULD be engaging him (the parents) do their jobs.