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05. http://i.imgur.com/Hw5zKym.jpg

Solution: get divorces, get together, be happy.

Life is never that simple.

that'll go great for their families

if they're both in extremely unhappy marriages that's one thing, but if things are just "stale" so they're looking for their "fix" in another person? leaving and running off into the sunset with a near-stranger is a terrible fucking idea and not worth destroying a family for

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silverau - 2013-04-26 23:46 (UTC) - Expand

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(Anonymous) - 2013-04-27 05:00 (UTC) - Expand

And perhaps destroy many other people's lives? Get over it, it's a fantasy anyway.

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(Anonymous) - 2013-04-27 04:36 (UTC) - Expand

I'm assuming this comment is meant to illustrate to OP the reasons that they have for staying in their current marriage.

Pretty much. OP either needs to suck it up and leave their marriage or suck it up and ignore this "true love" bs and do something to make their current marriage work. Nobody wins if they just sit around moping.

Because the only thing that matters is getting what you want.

Modern, fucked up society in a nutshell.

visp - 2013-04-27 05:42 (UTC) - Expand

Soul mates don't exist. love is nothing to do with destined perfection
The connection is strengthened, the affection simply grows over time, like a flower, Or a mushroom, or a guinea pig, or a vine, or a sponge, or bigotry... or a banana.

Most people don't use soul mates in the sense "I am literally cosmically destined to be with this person" (although I'll point out saying they don't exist is taking a knock at their faith and personal beliefs): usually they mean that they connect so thoroughly and completely with a person their souls are mates.

I'm not the OP and I don't honestly believe in soulmates the way the above link is trying to describe them, but sometimes something happens. You're chugging through life happy as a pig in shit for 19 years with your choices and then you look up one day and look into a stranger's eyes and feel such an intense jolt of recognition and connection and FAMILIARITY that you have to stop for a second and take it in like someone punched you right in the face. And it only grows over time to the point where you begin to doubt everything you always thought was true.

Not that I'm projecting onto the OP or anything.

Thanks for this link.

Whatever you do or don't do, OP, I hope it works out for you. And incidentally, I don't think that a marriage/relationship ending has to invalidate its significance.

visp - 2013-04-27 05:40 (UTC) - Expand

Hell yes Tim Minchin reference.

Other solution: Keep your cool, don't do anything you can't fix, the infatuation will pass.

Phew. The voice of reason is actually alive and well.

well, you know what they say, doctor who love is true love

:\ I hope you're taking this as a wake-up call to do all you both can to save your marriages. Sure, this might be love, but hopefully so is the relationship you've spent so long building. What about your marriage made you seek something outside of it, what's missing that you want to replace? I hope for your sake you figure out if the marriage is worth saving. If it's not, I hope it goes well for you, but... the other person being married raises some issues. You might leave, they might not. Where will you be then?

(I'm not trying to be mean or anything, one of my parents pulled this recently. ~Fell in love~, left my mom and all six of his kids, ran off, the other woman decided she didn't want to leave her husband, he ended up alone and depressed, alcoholic, crashing in guest rooms of whoever takes him in. I don't want that for anyone)

Sorry that happened to you, nonnie. :/

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silverau - 2013-04-27 08:54 (UTC) - Expand

This description isn't even close to the truth of either one's situation. Even on my most pessimistic day I wouldn't describe Jackie and AU!Pete this way. There is so much more to them and their stories.

... pretty sure OP wasn't referring to the characters.

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Don't feel bad; I thought they meant the characters until I read the comments and then re-read the secret.

There was a reason you married the person you're married to now. There's also a reason your "soulmate" married the person s/he's married to now. One of you leaving them would be doing a disservice to both of you and your spouses.

So why not be best buds? Are you unhappy in your marriage? Are they? Is there already friction and tension and your marriages on the rocks, or are you content, but have just found this other person out there you really connect with?

Nothing says you can't be married (and in love) and not have a bff that's really important to you, too.

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silverau - 2013-04-27 08:57 (UTC) - Expand

It's called a mid-life crisis.

Get a divorce, don't get a divorce, it will work itself out in the end. Just try not to leave embarrassing photos behind. For example, Thurston Moore at 50 (http://marcelokrasilcic.blogspot.ca/2010/09/thurston-moore-and-eva-prinz-in-v.html).

Lame. Take responsibility for what you already have.