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⌈ Secret Post #2306 ⌋

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[kind of porny, illustrated, Hetalia]

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[Pokemon]

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09. [SPOILERS for Kingdom Hearts]

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10. [SPOILERS for Spartacus]
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[gore? kind of, i think, live-action]

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12. [WARNING for rape]

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14. [WARNING for loli/shota]

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I hope the best for you, but try to remember this: Flynn didn't get Rapunzel away from Goethel. Rapunzel was the one who decided she'd had enough of being cooped up and wanted to leave her tower to see the world. I don't even remember Flynn doing a whole lot to save her from Goethel--he cut her hair, but by that point, Rapunzel had already realized how awful Goethel was. Even with Rapunzel promising to stay forever if Flynn was freed... I personally doubt that would have lasted. Maybe another few years at most. So watch the movie another few times, OP, and remember: Flynn may have supported Rapunzel in finding her freedom, once he got over being a dick and trying to get her back to the tower to make his own life easier, but Rapunzel was always the one who chose to step outside. You can too. And maybe it'll take longer without a Flynn, but you can do it. Someday when you're ready, your life will begin.

Yeah, this. Flynn ended up supporting her escape, but in the end he was just a reason for Rapunzel to overcome Gothel's abusive 'you can't go outside' programming.

You can and will get out, OP.

I really appreciate what you've said here and I'm glad that you think I could make it out on my own.

I tried to keep my situation vague because I'm a bit afraid that my mother will find this, but my situation mirrors Rapunzel's very closely. When I was in my preteens my mother pulled me out of public school and moved us far away. I am now in my late teens and since then I haven't had a friend or really any interaction with people outside of my close family. She's neglected to teach me any life skills and I have very crippling social anxiety and depression.

That's kind of why I want my own Eugene. I just want a friend that I could go on an adventure with. I realise now that I don't need one but I'd really appreciate one.

And I really hope nobody is insulted that I'm only replying to one of you. This is something that is really hard for me and I appreciate all of the well wishes I have gotten.

Oh, God, your situation's similar to mine in the past!

A divorce was how she left my life.

Please, hang in there. Until you can learn to interact with people more, online friends should help! Otherwise, believe in yourself and don't blame yourself for any naive/"stupid" mistakes you might make. It's not your fault you weren't prepared and can't recognize the cues.

Good luck!

I can't say I can relate much to this situation, OP, coming from a very loving, stable home, but secrets that deal with family matters always get to me. I sincerely hope you find a Eugene soon.

Until then, is there anyone you can talk to about your situation? Another close family member who just won't immediately tell your mother if you confide in them? A pastor or priest? A therapist or psychologist? Pretty soon, it's going to be time to spread your wings and get out there in the big, wide world, and having someone in your corner can be a big help. As far as life skills go, don't worry too much. As long as you can get the basics down, like keeping money in the bank, getting a job, and keeping yourself fed, the rest tend to come through trial-and-error even for the best of us.

Here's one more well-wisher rooting for you to make it, OP!

Heya OP, I just wanted to say that I had pretty much the exact same experience with tangled--I knew things were bad and that the way my mother treated me wasnt okay but it wasnt until i saw tangled for the first time that i realised just how bad it was. I sobbed the whole way through the movie, but since then it's become a major cornerstone for me in terms of recovery--I got out of my house a few months later. Actually, I cut contact and ran. By that point, things had gotten so bad that it was either leave or die. I'm not gonna lie, it was the hardest thing I've ever done. I've been out of my mother's house for a year and a half and I still struggle every day--there are big gaps in my life skills because of my mother's isolation and I have nightmares about her all the time, but I'm surviving. I've finally found a safe place where I can stand n my own two feet and breathe easy. Wanting someone like Eugene is totally natural--for abused people having allies and support is vital. I literally would not have made it without my friends, and every day I'm grateful for them. The other posters talking about making online friends are right--I know it may be weird and hard at first given how you've been trained not to reach out--it was for me--but the internet is your greatest tool. You can meet people and find kids in similar situations, you can educate yourself on the stuff you're missing. You're not alone. Excuse me for being corny and terrible, but someday soon you'll be able to leave the tower too.

Here're some resources that helped me:

http://www.lightshouse.org/#axzz2Ret3FVg9
http://www.daughtersofnarcissisticmothers.com/

OP, I sympathize. My mom was awesome, but my Dad was Gothel. I was homeschooled, and Mom didn't know most of what was happening. So, I was terribly isolated (as a teen I was lucky to see someone my own age every six months) and yeah.

Once I got out? The anxiety? Holy shit. It's been bad. I have other mental health issues as well (bipolar, runs in the family), but the anxiety has been a HUGE problem, and is triggered by approval or lack thereof or even fear of lack thereof. Even total strangers on the internet can trigger it.

I had my Eugene, and it helps, but it doesn't totally take away the anxiety. Rapunzel's reaction upon leaving the tower? Dead on.

If you need an ear, you are welcome to PM me or email or IM me; my contact info is all in my profile. *hugs offered*

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