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I am 30+ and of no help, I'm afraid. Because when I said "I'm getting off this ride now and trying another one" I ended up quitting my job and starting a new path in life. But then my job wasn't exactly a shining career path and I was miserable doing it, so probably a different situation to yours.

Maybe chat with a therapist or friends? Talking things out can help a surprising amount.

OP here. Good for you for starting a new career path, I'm glad it worked out for you!

As for me, I've done half a dozen things over the years, but have finally settled out into the job I always wanted, doing what I always wanted, so I really really really need to NOT stop the ride and get off. On the other hand, even though I love my job and have (for the moment anyway) job security, the thought of doing what I am doing for the next twenty years is...yeah not so inspiring. Especially when I could be spending those twenty years enjoying what should be the remainder of the prime of my life.....

I have also moved around a startling amount over the last two decades, and so don't have any stable, permanent friends; and my current circle of passing acquaintances are all, unfortunately, enabling of my take on it, likely because they (seem to) wish they had done the same thing at my age. (Current circle is all significantly older than me.)

My family, rightfully so, is horrified if I even broach the idea. And they're right of course, I'm not some flake who decides "I'm going to live in Turkey tomorrow!" and goes off with a backpack and a wad of euros or something like that; every move I have made in my life (with one or two exceptions) has been calculated to improve my lot in life, and that of my family's.

And, right now, plan B would do NEITHER. I mean, it would definitely improve the quality of my life, but it would only be a self-centred improvement. Which isn't very healthy at all.

Hmm, is there a way you could compromise with your steady sane career and your feelings of fleeing? Obviously I have no idea what you do, but could you do it remotely? Transfer to a new place? Maybe a little bit of change would help offset those feelings.

Maybe if you start a separate savings and start putting a little away now for crazy funtimes later it could help your mentality as well. Knowing that you're taking actions now so you'll definitely be able to do something?

By your family do you mean husband/wife and kids or siblings and parents? Because if you have a partner and kids that's a totally different situation. But otherwise I think it's perfectly okay to make self-centered improvements in your life. In the end wouldn't your family be happy that you're happy and have improved quality of life?

No SO and no kids, but I am the primary breadwinner in the household and taking care of both the house (which I would sooner jettison for all the trouble it's given me) and the ailing family member living IN the house. Which, needless to say, I am NOT going to jettison the house and leave my family member literally out in the cold.

Unfortunately, working remotely is not an option and transferring is not an option. I do take vacation time every year, and that does help, but that's about all I can save for (I don't make that much) due to responsibilities for aforementioned relative (which include financial).

I actually do have a good quality of life, and this is exactly what I keep telling myself, and this is what relatives would tell me, should I bring it up as a serious discussion and not just a "Yeah, this sucks, I should pack it all in," type of rhetorical discussion.

IDEK if it's so much "fleeing" as wanting to have a lot more control over my life than my steady, sane career, lets me have. When said steady, sane career, already lets me have WAY more control over my life than most. In the meantime it seems (especially with all that's gone/going on around me) as though time is slipping through my fingers. OTOH I don't particularly want to turn into a lazy bum that sits around and watches TV all day (or in my case, it would be sitting around in the great outdoors all day).

I mean, I want to DO stuff that requires I have a job that gives me the money to do it...but it has been the case, ever since I entered the workforce mumbletysome years ago, that when I have had the time, I haven't had the money (being between jobs/careers/laid off/etc.) and when I have the money, I don't have the time! Yeah yeah first world problems I know I know.

But there are still several countries in the world where I could take whatever money I had from selling everything off, and live like royalty for the rest of my days....The disadvantage being I am monolingual and NOT multi-talented, nor am I a good traveller.

Put all your professional skills to work for yourself. Think and research and plot out optional paths. Make pro and con lists and take an honest, searching look at each of the kinds of things you could do.

For example:

What if I aim for early retirement at age X and aggressively save so that I can take an optional path early?

What if I find meaningful outlets in my personal life which will meet some of these alternative needs while still following my career path?

What if I find a way to morph my professional career in a direction that would be more fulfilling - lateral move, same career but different company or location, etc.?

Best of luck, OP!

OP here

The lists and planning and evaluating options is exactly what I have been doing...although I shouldn't be doing that, because I shouldn't even be contemplating changing my life at all. (Thus you see my problem.) I am definitely doing the honest, searching, look bit, so thanks for that...at least I am partially on the right track?? As I indicated above I am not the type to follow through immediately on hasty decisions; not without at least a semi-solid game plan backing me up, anyway!

If I dumped all of my assets, I could retire as soon as I jettisoned everything, but the proceeds of such a wholesale sell-off would not last forever, and I would be dropped like a hot potato from the company pension. Plus, if I jettisoned everything, I would have...nothing...and so would have to start again. So it is a catch-22 definitely.

My job honestly is my dream job and I am not at all dissatisfied with it. I am just dissatisfied with the fact that I might not be able to enjoy the fruits of my job once it's over and done with, except for a very limited amount of vacation time each year. :-(

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