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fandomsecrets2013-05-19 03:32 pm
[ SECRET POST #2329 ]
⌈ Secret Post #2329 ⌋
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That said, I wouldn't be surprised about the secret-handshake aspect of it. My jaw nearly hit the floor the first time I saw "person of color" in a fandom context, and I cringed when I realized this is the term I'm supposed to refer to myself by in a collective manner to be politically correct. If it were just chosen on the basis of being "the least offensive to the least amount of people possible", I wouldn't be nearly so bothered by it because I know that sometimes you have to settle for something in the name of expediency. I tend to be more bothered by the attitude that a.) this is something all 'people of color' are supposed to be happy about and b.) the idea that using "non-white" is offensive, and if you are an ethnic minority and use that term you're somehow doing...minority-ness wrong, or something like that. This stuff changes so fast I'm not sure which part of my ethnic identity/terminology I'm supposed to feel guilty about. Especially since increasingly I'm not sure if it's supposed to refer to ALL ethnic minorities or just those of African descent. >.<
It's one thing to say "this term does have negative connotations, but it has the least amount so let's all just get over our hang-ups and use it, and maybe reclaim it in the process". It's another thing entirely to imply "you shouldn't be so upset about this term in the first place, it's a lot better than how you are already referring to yourself as/defining yourself by". Or worst of all, "Oh, you don't like that term? Then clearly you're just a white person pretending to be [insert ethnicity here]!" (which is something I had lobbied at me once, though hilariously enough this one happened in real life, and none of this person's friends took it seriously considering I was standing right there and am very clearly not white).
/rant
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(Anonymous) 2013-05-20 01:36 pm (UTC)(link)Yes, there is a chance that, say, a gay individual that refers to him/herself as "faggot" has institutionalized the negative connotations of the word, but I have also known one or two men who were very confident and very secure in their identities and sexuality who referred to themselves ass faggot in a tongue-in-cheek sense.
So, yeah. I am firmly of the opinion that NOBODY has the right to determine how people identify themselves. If I want to refer to myself as a "hysteric fit-prone cunt" (referring to my depression, epilepsy and ovaries respectively) then nobody should get to say I can't. I'm not about to, but I feel that if I felt like it, I should be able to. If it came from a place of self-hatred, then perhaps I could be directed to seek help, but if it doesn't....well....yeah. End of story.