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[ SECRET POST #2338 ]

⌈ Secret Post #2338 ⌋

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[Saturday Night Live]

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[Homestuck]

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[The Dark Knight trilogy]

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[Star Trek]

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[Daily Show with Jon Stewart & Colbert Report with Stephen Colbert]

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[Neil Gaiman/Amanda Palmer]

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[Late Night Talk Shows]

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[Fruits Basket]

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[Defiance]

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[Phoenix Legend]

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[Kim Possible]

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[Rupert Graves]

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[Hashirama, from Naruto]

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[XXXholic]

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A few days ago, there was a secret from somebody who read Ayn Rand's books to impress some girl, but it didn't work. Some people responded with "well, at least you didn't end up with an Ayn Rand fan!"

When I joined an online dating site, I noticed a LOT of guys who have her or her books in mentioned in their "favorite books" section. I did not consider messaging any of them. I don't want to date with someone who finds that kind of thinking appealing.

Anyone else have something like that, where you don't want to date/sleep with/be friends with people if they like a certain author, book, movie, fandom, etc.?

It's not something I considered before, but now that you mention it, I don't think I could date someone who shipped something other than my OTP in any given fandom.

And yeah, I'm kind of ashamed of myself for it.

i don't talk to anyone who likes brokencyde

Absolutely. If I end up on someone's tumblr page and their description says _______ is the best actress ever, I'm just going to shake my head and navigate away.

I tend to be rather judgmental of people's likes and dislikes, so I'm just going to say yes. It's something I should probably work on, but so far I just try not to let it get in the way too much.

It depends on what is. With something like Ayn Rand's books, there are indicators there about politics, which is something most couples need to have at basic agreement on. For me, it wouldn't be that they liked the books, it would be that we have very different political views that would keep us from having a relationship.

I don't know about avoid, though. I wouldn't avoid someone for something like that, or even refuse to be friends with them if we had several common interests. The only people I actually avoid are sexual predators, murderers and anyone who has extreme or fanatic religious/political/social views.

For me, the issue with regards to Ayn Rand isn't about politics - it's more about ethics, about the fact that a lot of Rand's ethical system is completely antithetical to what I believe and what I think is important for people. It's about that Rand's ethics celebrate a lot of behaviors that I think of as wrong, and rejects most of what I think is good. And I think that's a lot more important than a political disagreement, you know? In terms of intimate partnerships, but also in terms of everyday dealings. I can get along with disagreements, even profound disagreements, about taste, politics, religion, but a person's ethical system matters and the one that Rand advocates is one that I can't abide.

And obviously not everyone who likes Rand is in it for the ethical system, but the ethical system (and the political ideology for which it is the warrant) seems to be the main thing that attracts Rand's fans.

Yeah, that's the thing for me, too. Even to enjoy Rand as entertainment very much requires accepting a world view where both a person's worth is measured by financial success AND that success happens or does not happen because of their inherent worth. At best, that's an absurd wish-fulfillment fantasy. Neither personal success nor financial markets actually operate that way; the difference between a nobody who dies unknown and a billionaire often isn't that the billionaire was Just Better or Harder Working, but just that the future billionaire had the luck to be in the right place at the right time.

And when it's the reverse, that a person who has fallen on hard times deserves those hard times, that the poor and disabled deserve neither aid nor empathy—fuck that, I do not believe in a world where leaving people to die as worthless is acceptable. There are rights I believe even people I loathe should have, without question.

(In other words, I'm totally the strawman villain of the book lol)

No, not really... there are some things that I don't like to the extent that I tell my friends not to try to talk about it with me (like... yaoi and H-games), but even those I don't refuse to be friends with them just because they like it.

Honestly? I'm sort of put off by guys who are really into soccer, or just televised mass-crowd sports in general.

At least they are reading something. I'd avoid people who don't read anything and/or only watch reality TV. Those qualities aren't really appealing.

Yes...In as much as if there's something I have strong objections to is in their likes I want nothing to do with them.

Not... really, unless they like a LOT of things I happen to really, really dislike, and how much they're into it/if they're really obnoxious about it.

If it's just one or two things, ie you like 50 Shades of Grey (Gray?), I'll probably side-eye you, but not necessarily avoid you.

If they are not racist (and so on), no, not really...

I have friends who love things I hate, it isn't anything that will be a deal breaker for me.

One of my best friends love Gwen from Torchwood, and she is my most hated character from any show I have ever watched... Another friend of mine loves Vampire Diaries (or the other one? I can't keep them appart), same person is also as close to opposite of me when it comes to politics and she loves the Twilight films.

I could not be friends with someone whom agreed with me on everything, that would be pretty boring.

Yes. I subscribe to the philosophy that a person's interests say a lot about their personality. I don't think ill of them based solely on that (except maybe hardcore Twilight fans), I just feel that we can't be friends.

Which actually sort of sucks, because I had a lot of respect for one of my openly geeky coworkers and thought we could be friends, until I learned that she liked Family Guy and I just...I can't. She's still cool, IMO, but I just don't really see us seeing eye to eye on certain things that are actually important to me.

Sometimes the things people like and choose to advertise as liking say a lot about them as a person. And sometimes, the like of something heavily homophobic/sexist/racist etc. says something that makes me go 'fuck this' and run in the opposite direction.

When it's just media I personally dislike and not SUPER DUPER problematic, though... For me it's one part 'I like this thing' and two parts 'this is how I react when you don't like this thing'. With a side helping of 'I am aware of problematic elements in this thing and do not excuse them' if necessary.

Mmmmmm, furries. I do know one furry irl and he's a nice guy, but a bit odd. I was okay originally but lately, i dunno, something about the way he's been talking or acting has put me on edge but I can't place it yet. I used to enjoy chatting to him too.

Cosplayers too, but I recently made some friends really into it so I guess that's lessening. I still think it's hellaweird though, but I can see the fun.

I don't mind people enjoying Sherlock, but if they call themselves a Whovian in their okcupid profile I am backclicking away.

Vegans. Vegetarians are okay, they tend to be reasonable. But vegans RUN AWAY.

Who's Ayn Rand and what's up with her books that people are avoided?

If you only have a paragraph or two do describe yourself and you mostly use it to talk about things that I don't like (FPS games) or that put me off (clubbing), I'm going to mentally filter you out.

i won't date a smoker, drug user, or someone who drinks a lot. i judge people who judge others about liking childish things like anime, cartoons, etc. i tend to not get along w/them given my love of "childish" things.

Not many. Hell, I even have a friend who likes Twilight. She's a sweet, caring woman and don't see why I'd dump her because she has terrible taste in books. Also, plenty of my old friends from high school still have the same tastes as they did in high school and as excruciating as that can be at times (ANGST ANGST ANGST WEARING ALL BLACK MAKES A CHARACTER MORE INTERESTING), I'd never ditch them for that either.

But Ayn Rand? Eugh. Well I do have an acquaintifriend who's a Randroid, but she's such a hilarious parody of objectivism herself I just can't bring myself to dislike her over it. She's easily the least successful person in my circle of friends, and goes on and on about bootstrapping and slackers and leeches and loooooooooool doesn't even pay taxes herself.

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