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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2013-05-29 06:53 pm

[ SECRET POST #2339 ]


⌈ Secret Post #2339 ⌋

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Re: Lots of use of the word "shame"

(Anonymous) 2013-05-29 11:42 pm (UTC)(link)
Because often the shame is directed at things people either cannot or should not need to change. Like kinkshaming. You cannot change your kinks, so shame is not going to work. In addition, the vast majority of kinks leave nobody hurt or worse, regardless of how odd you might think it is, so there is hardly a reason to change them.

I agree with you that shame can be a powerful and useful tool for managing social situations, but it should only be directed at behaviour people can help. Like... shaming an asshole that keeps catcalling and otherwise harassing women? Spiffy. Shaming a dude that just happens to have a kink for getting peed on? Idiotic as fuck.