[ SECRET POST #2339 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2339 ⌋

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OP

[(Anonymous)]

Hello! I think you seem to get what I was trying to express.

Of course liking BL/slash and manly men is not exclusive. It just bothers me when people thinks that boyish or slightly effeminate guys are only liked by teenage fangirls, that you're supposed to grow out of it, and "graduate" to "real men".

Even in my real life, adult relationships I have basically gotten comments about liking "nice boys", or had people openly comment on my taste in men. I even got questioned if I'm really attracted to my current boyfriend. It's borderline insulting. And it's not like my bf is flaming, or wears a tutu of whatever - but he's not exactly the epitome of an alpha male.

And comments about liking BL or m/m erotica have possible even be worse, by adults who I thought were pretty sex positive - so yeah.

Basically, I know what kind of erotica I like, I know what kind of men I fancy - I've known since I was 17, and it hasn't changed. In that sense it's frustrating that it's seen as something to grow out of. Hell, I've heard a lot of condescension towards "yaoi moms". I'm not a mom myself, but age-wise, I easily could be.

Re: OP

[(Anonymous)]

Ahh, yeah. I remember encountering this as a teenage BL/slash fan: lots and lots of "pretty boys," and this weird idea among some people (both BL/slash fans and not, or sometimes slash fans talking about "girly" animanga dudes) that the fetishism for the "pretty" ones would go away once we young lasses grew up.

Ten years later, I still kinda dig pretty boys. My tastes have expanded, for sure, but I'm still pretty averse to beards, excessive body hair, and big men. I get teased all the time for having a boyfriend who is shorter than me and very baby-faced (not to mention, he reads as "submissive" to people who think a Real Man ought to have more control over his opinionated lady). People are weird. Stereotypes are weird.