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⌈ Secret Post #2339 ⌋

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OP I have no idea how old you are, but one thing I've learnt over the years is that even though I often hate photos of myself, that is me at that time, and the people who love you would prefer to see a photo of you than not. I read a great blog, wish I still had the link, about a woman who never allowed herself to be photographed because of her weight, she was then in a near fatal car accident, and realised that her family, children, her mother and siblings, had no photos of her and how sad it could have been for them. Also thinking about it, they didn't see her weight, they saw their beloved relative.

Also being a bit older I've realised that you do need to accept the weight you are at, and buy clothes that you like at that weight, but that doesn't mean you have to stay that weight forever. Diets don't work, over 90% of people who diet put more weight back on afterward. However those approaches that start with accepting yourself have much better stats on lasting weight loss. The sort of thing I mean is the sort of Geneen Roth, Paul McKenna stuff. Really worth looking at if you want to avoid a life of yo yo dieting.

I've never been obese and when younger I was always slim, however I put on a couple of stone as I got older, but here's the thing, I knew quite a few friends and colleagues who had put on similar (women often do) and started going to weight watchers and the like. Now all of them are several stone heavier than me, I've watched them over the past 20 years lose lots of weight, then put more on and yo yo the whole time. I never wanted to diet, can't bear being told what to eat by anyone. I may not be thin, but I'm much thinner than the dieters. (Not sure if you are in the US but I guess my size is like a US 12? UK 14-16, the women I'm referring to now range from a size 20 to 28 or so UK) I just stayed the same with this vague sense that I must some day lose that couple of stone (which is about 30 lbs in US speak..)

Anyhow I just wanted to put a different POV as I'm not saying you have to be into fat acceptance, I don't think accepting yourself is the same thing as saying you will always be the same, but maybe looking at some of the intuitive eating approaches might be interesting. : )