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⌈ Secret Post #2339 ⌋

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Comments

[fscom]

13. http://oi40.tinypic.com/t9a1cm.jpg

[(Anonymous)]

I'm trying to read but I'm distracted by ass

[(Anonymous)]

I think body acceptance should only go so far. YES it shouldn't matter what other people thing, especially if you are actually happy with how you look.

But if you WANT to look a certain way, you should try to get there.

I am not thin, and I see a lot of people harping on about how its important not to be shamed into changing how you look, but its also important to note that sometimes this ties into health & your own self esteem and there is NOTHING wrong with also wanting to change how you look.

[(Anonymous)]

Fuck the idiots who say wanting to look thin is a bad thing. Your body, your choice.

[(Anonymous)]

Many people insist that the only right thing to do is accepting your body as it is, but doing something to change what you don't like about yourself so you can accept yourself it's actually a good thing to do.

Changing it's not wrong, don't let other people to tell you otherwise.

[philstar22]

Ack. You've completely expressed my current fear, OP. I'm going to a Trek con in a couple of weeks. I bought a photo op, and it will be my first one. The last few weeks I've been plagued by thoughts of wondering why I decided I wanted to do that. And for exactly these reasons.

[(Anonymous)]

This exact situation is actually holding me back from doing any irl fannish activity. I hate how I look, and I'm afraid getting photographed in costume or next to someone I respect would just make me feel even more ashamed.

[bored_bitch]

No one is in any kind of position to demand that you accept your own body, if it doesn't make you happy.

If that means getting thinner, getting larger, putting on makeup, getting plastic surgery, changing your hair, getting tattoos, getting piercings, wearing colored contacts, or anything else, it's your right to do it as long as you have the funds to support it.

[(Anonymous)]

hey, as long as you're being healthy about it, do what makes you feel good about yourself. but don't do it to meet society's standards, or for anyone else for that matter - do it for you. that's what body positivity means to me.

[(Anonymous)]

I'd never do a photo op with a celeb because I hate the way I look and it would ruin my enjoyment of the pic to see myself in it. Do the celebs at cons ever have photo ops where you can not be in the picture with them?

Can I take this time to complain about fat acceptance people?

[(Anonymous)]

Because they always reblog pics of gorgeous girls that just happen to be a bit fat, but have perfect skin and attractive bodies regardless (no cellulite, no stretch marks, hour glass figures and big breasts, toned arms, etc.) and say "Everyone is beautiful." What about us fat girls that have stretch marks everywhere (fucking everywhere, it sucks) and flabby arms and apple shaped bodies, etc.

And: Ugh. No, assholes, I'll never wear a bikini (never while I'm fat or thin) because I can never get rid of the damage I did to my body by becoming fat (stretch marks).

[bur]

Whatever gets you healthy and happy. Especially the happy part. That's the most important thing ever.

[bigredhug]

You should do whatever it is that makes you feel beautiful OP, that's what's most important, feeling at peace with yourself.

[writerserenyty]

If it's a good motivator to get in better shape and make you a happier person, go for it! I'm all for body acceptance, but if losing weight (at a healthy range) would make you happier and healthier, and this is what you want, then I say use that motivation!

(on a side note, the one picture I have with a JPop singer I adore (Aso Natsuko) I actually look decent which made me so happy)

[(Anonymous)]

Wanting to change how you look, provided you aren't obsessively trying to get to an unhealthy weight by unhealthy means, is absolutely fine and I hope you do well. You're allowed to make your own choices about your own body for your own reasons and no one should get to tell you that you're a bad person or making a bad choice for it. Go you.

Fuck the haters...well, no, you can probably find someone better to screw, but still-

[nyxelestia]

You have a right to try to look how you want. Obviously, first priority should be your health, but it does not have to be your only priority. You want to lose weight? Go the fuck ahead and lose weight. Just make sure you take care of yourself like a bawss while you do. :)

[(Anonymous)]

This reminds me of that gifset on tumblr with the original images/published images of models/celebs. They were photoshopped to hell, so keep that in mind. Even the people you think are perfect aren't even considered perfect!

If you want to lose weight, and are doing so in a healthy manner, then there's nothing wrong with that.

[(Anonymous)]

I'll chime in with the "if it makes you feel better about yourself, do it" thing.

However! I'm also going to add this: even if you lose as much weight as you want, don't put all your hopes on it changing how you feel about yourself. I've lost 95 pounds in the last 18 months (all me, no surgery or pills, thank you) so that I am down to 110, which is right in the middle of the healthy weight range for my height. But what no one knew to warn me about was how horribly hard it can be as you're going down, not from a work perspective, but from a "this isn't real" perspective. One week, your jeans are so huge they fall off you when you walk and you're feeling awesome about it, so you buy a smaller pair, which only has your body looking like it did twenty pounds ago while it tries to be in smaller, tighter pants. I spent an awful lot of time seeing myself at my top weight, even forty-fifty-sixty pounds down, because things still sat in the same places, just smaller. I still do. Logically, the numbers on the scale tell me I did it. I can see it in pictures. I can tell by the clothes I simply cannot wear. I can feel my body and know I did it. But to look in the mirror? Hell, no. I'm still way up there. So know that if you do lose the weight, it won't solve how you see yourself. Losing weight isn't the work you'll have to do there. Seeing yourself as who you are, that'll be the harder part.

Either way, good luck.

[(Anonymous)]

Humble-brag.

[(Anonymous)]

Came for obligatory DAT ASS.

Leaving disappointed.

[(Anonymous)]

If you want to look like a moviestar, photoshop a picture of yourself to hell and back. Congratulations. Okay. Snark over.

If you want to lose weight and keep it off, don't start with a crash diet or a miracle diet or a diet of cabbage soup and grapefruit. If you have access to a doctor, talk to them about setting realistic goals. Don't weigh yourself often. Exercise lots, whether that's taking the stairs or walking to work. You want to do resistance training--weights and stuff--and cardio training--things that get your heart rate up. You will gain muscle, which weighs more than fat, but that's a good thing. It takes up less space and burns more calories faster. Your basic weight distribution probably won't change lots--if you're pear-shaped when you're fat you probably won't be apple or hourglass shaped when you're skinny. Eat only slightly fewer calories than you burn per day, because if you suddenly cut your caloric intake by lots your body will think it's starving, because it is, and start frantically storing fat. Don't deny yourself all treats ever, because cravings will eat you alive. When you do have treats, enjoy them. Actually, try and enjoy everything you eat. If you see food as the enemy you're going to make problems for yourself. Eat lots of fruit and veggies and whole grains, but a healthy diet doesn't have to mean lentils and kale for every meal. Calories are calories whether they come from chocolate or carrots. Drink water or tea or herb tea without sugar. If you drink non-diet soda, stop and you'll have cut an enormous source of calories right there. Ditto sugar-syrup-and-cream laden coffee.

Good luck.

[seventh_seal]

Obesity is not healthy (being overweight is not always so bad), so good luck on losing weight!

The sad truth is, though, that to stay slim you need to change your eating habits FOREVER. So be prepared to do that, otherwise you're on the slippery slope of bouncing back and forth.

[rocks_not_dead]

It's a perfectly fine thing to say as long as you only hold yourself to those standards and don't give others trouble if they don't look like movie stars. It would also be good if you got there in a healthy and safe way (something that not even movie stars do a lot of the time.)

[(Anonymous)]

The truth is, even movie stars don't look like movie stars without make-up, professional lighting, and possibly a lot of photoshop.

It's not a bad thing to say how you honestly feel. It's not even a bad thing to want to lose weight - your body, your choice.

But, accepting your body won't stop you from losing weight (if that is your choice), all it will do is stop you from being miserable along the way. Remember, healthy weight loss is one pound per week (thereabouts); depending on your current weight, that's potentially a long time you won't be thin yet. Do you really want to spend all that time not enjoying life to the fullest?

That thin, "conventionally pretty" self you think you could love, you know who'll she be? YOU. With all your personal character traits, all your skills, all your experiences, just in a smaller (but otherwise still the same) body. So, if you could love yourself in that hypothetical thin future, you can love yourself NOW. Because you already are that same person.

[(Anonymous)]

You gotta remember that they are MOVIE STARS. It is their JOB to look that way. They have trainers. They have hours to spend in the gym every day.

We have better things to do with our lives, don't you think? :)