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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2013-05-31 07:11 pm

[ SECRET POST #2341 ]


⌈ Secret Post #2341 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[David Mitchell]


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[Carry On]


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[Jay and Silent Bob]


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[Simcity Societies]


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[Game of Thrones]


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[Game of Thrones]


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[Noel Fielding]


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[Once Upon a Time]


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[Doraemon]


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[Uninhabited Planet SURVIVE]


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12. [SPOILERS for Star Trek: Into Darkness]



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13. [SPOILERS for Arrow]



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15. [WARNING for pedohpilia]

[Neon Genesis Evangelion]


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DA

(Anonymous) 2013-05-31 11:37 pm (UTC)(link)
Being faithful? Once they are dead, no one has a duty to stay single. And it is possible to have true love twice. No one has to move on and be with other people, but there is absolutely nothing wrong with moving on, and it doesn't make the relationship with the dead person any more or less true love.

Re: DA

(Anonymous) 2013-05-31 11:48 pm (UTC)(link)
I don't know, I think that if you truly love someone, as in that person being your soulmate, the one for you, you don't stop loving them just because they are gone. Or at least that's my case

Re: DA

(Anonymous) 2013-05-31 11:51 pm (UTC)(link)
No, you don't stop loving them. But you can love someone else as well. The love will be different, but doesn't mean it is weaker.

My father died when I was 15. My parents were what I'd call soulmates. They clearly loved each other deeply. Mother remarried when I was 21. My stepfather is an amazing man. My mother loves him. Their relationship is different, but no less strong.

My mother got a lot of flack for daring to remarry, especially from my father's parents. So maybe this issue is a little personal for me.

I'm not saying that it is wrong to not move on. But it also isn't wrong to do so. And finding a new love says nothing about the strength of the previous relationship.

Re: DA

(Anonymous) 2013-06-01 12:04 am (UTC)(link)
You don't stop loving them, but that doesn't mean its cheating.

Re: DA

(Anonymous) 2013-06-01 12:09 am (UTC)(link)
DA

I do believe you don't stop loving someone after they die, but I also don't believe a person will continue loving someone in the exact same way after a period of time after their death.

If your soulmate dies at 19, are you really saying you will never be in any non-platonic relationship for the 50+ years of your life?

Re: DA

(Anonymous) 2013-06-01 12:15 am (UTC)(link)
Yes, that's what I'm trying to do. But in my case my soulmate wasn't my partner but my best friend, so I suppose is not exactly the same that losing a partner.

Re: DA

(Anonymous) 2013-06-01 12:23 am (UTC)(link)
well I'm sorry for your loss. but please consider the impact that your commentary has on other people. not everyone may be able to or choose to have your particular mindset. it doesn't mean we didn't love the people we've lost.

Re: DA

(Anonymous) 2013-06-01 12:38 am (UTC)(link)
I apologize, I never intentnded to imply that. I'm sorry if it sounded like I was saying that people that move on didn't love their deceased ones.
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Re: DA

[personal profile] lunabee34 2013-06-01 12:24 am (UTC)(link)
No, you don't stop loving them. As Reese Watson said in an episode of Designing Women, "Julia Sugarbaker, you just keep all the memories and pictures of Hayden McIlroy that you want to because, quite frankly, I don't think I'd want to be with a woman who stopped loving her husband just because he died."

But love is one of those things where loving one person doesn't mean that you can't love another. It isn't a commodity that gets used up and disappears. This is why parents are able to love more than one child, for example, or why people can deeply love more than one friend.

I definitely think you can *choose* not to fall in love again, and if my husband were to die, I don't know if I would choose to build a relationship with someone else. But I don't think it would be impossible or morally wrong for me to do so just because I loved him first and still.

Re: DA

(Anonymous) 2013-06-01 07:39 pm (UTC)(link)
nayrt, but i just wanted to say that this is a really good comment, and a really insightful way to look at this issue both personally and in the context of the book, and many others

also i fucking love designing women and i had totally forgot about that line
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Re: DA

[personal profile] lunabee34 2013-06-02 12:28 am (UTC)(link)
I love Designing Women hard. Julia Sugarbaker is my role model. LOL