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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2013-06-02 03:28 pm

[ SECRET POST #2343 ]


⌈ Secret Post #2343 ⌋

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(Anonymous) 2013-06-03 06:41 am (UTC)(link)
Definitely. Consensual polyamory will never be a thing because that's how we are (even if a part of us likes it).
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[personal profile] rapunzelita 2013-06-03 09:57 am (UTC)(link)
Hm. That's kind of insulting. I understand it not working out for you, and that's perfectly fine, and I can also definitely agree with the idea that our society does not do anything to help people who might be interested in being in an open relationship. But saying that it will NEVER be a thing? That's taking it a bit far. How do you know what will happen in the future? Maybe we'll build societies that are more accepting of the idea that attraction and love works in many different ways, and that being attracted to two people at the same time is neither a crime nor a tragedy.

I have plenty of friends who do or have done polyamory. It works out just fine for some of them, it didn't for others, but it is definitely A Thing, whether you want it to be or not. It doesn't have to be anyone's Thing, of course. But it does exist and it is possible.

Besides, if that's not "how we are", why is it that we can experience attraction of other people when we are in a (healthy, happy) relationship? (And yes, that is a thing that happens with many people.) Clearly if "that's not how we are", then we shouldn't experience that at all. And clearly, if we do experience this, then we should do our best to be open about what we want, instead of suffering in silence.

Basically, I will have my cake and eat it and I will not apologise for it. And my boyfriend will have his cake, and he will goddam eat it if he wants to, and that is great too. It's not easy all the time, but it is definitely A Thing.
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[personal profile] rapunzelita 2013-06-03 09:58 am (UTC)(link)
(Also thank you for basically saying that my consent is not a thing.)