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Comments

Re: Uuuugh.

[(Anonymous)]

You could always go the route my sister did - sign the paper and then just have a big family party. No wedding no fuss, family still gets the celebration and you can even throw in a bit of "ceremony" with the first dance, dinner, speeches if you really want.

A lot of families these days aren't so rigid with the whole wedding thing. Obviously some still are but still.

And I really dont' think it's childish to have a wedding or celebration in your own way. Part of being an adult is standing up to your family and standing for your own beliefs, whatever those may be. And part of being a mature and loving family is supporting those beliefs.

Re: Uuuugh.

[chardmonster]

Part of being an adult is also sometimes shutting up and going along with things because you really love other people.

I mean at the end of the day this would be having a party thrown for me and someone I love that is inconvenient. That isn't exactly a huge sacrifice.

I think you guys think a church wedding + reception is somehow against my beliefs rather than merely annoying to me.

Re: Uuuugh.

[(Anonymous)]

well, your initial comment and the few following it were very ambiguous on your reasons for dreading it

Re: Uuuugh.

[(Anonymous)]

different anon

"Part of being an adult is also sometimes shutting up and going along with things because you really love other people."

Sure, there's a time and place for that, but YOUR wedding shouldn't have to be one of them. If you honestly don't care either way and doing it in a way that makes your family happy would make YOU happy, then great, but you shouldn't feel obligated.

Re: Uuuugh.

[chardmonster]

Sure, there's a time and place for that, but YOUR wedding shouldn't have to be one of them.

See, this is an issue. We're still building up the wedding to be some kind of hugely important event. As if it would somehow be devastating to not have precisely the wedding I want. It's not like I'm an atheist being forced to genuflect.

Weddings are all about obligation. That is why they exist in the first place. Hell, that's why marriage exists. And I'm going to gripe about it. But a wedding wouldn't exactly ruin my life, here. I'm sorry my annoyance and dread of wearing a fancy dress and getting pictures taken got misconstrued as something much worse.

I stand by my statements that the wedding industry sucks, though.

Re: Uuuugh.

[(Anonymous)]

If your family expects you to have a proper wedding and you want to give that to them, that's great! But weddings can be expensive, time-consuming, elaborate affairs, and I don't think it's inherent selfish or un-adult to not have one just to please family members. Especially if you don't have anyone to help foot the bill and you have to do it yourself. It's kind of silly to put yourself in debt over something you don't even really want in the first place, just to prevent family members being disappointed. A lot of people are perfectly fine with small/no-formal ceremony and just skipping to the reception, anyway.