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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2013-06-30 03:20 pm

[ SECRET POST #2371 ]


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(Anonymous) 2013-06-30 10:04 pm (UTC)(link)
If it makes you feel better, OP, if some futuristic amazing machine came into existence that brought fictional characters into reality, I would definitely get out of my current relationship. Mind you, it's not a great one to begin with, but if I had even the smallest chance at being with someone who I feel would be a much better fit for me, I'd end it.

(Anonymous) 2013-06-30 10:35 pm (UTC)(link)
Forgive me, but I sort of think you might want to end it anyway. It's hard, and it's scary, and there are a lot of "what ifs" involved. But if you're staying in a relationship only because someone better hasn't yet come along, then you're not being fair to yourself or to your partner. You could grow more, and experience more, and meet more potential mates if you were apart from them.

(Anonymous) 2013-06-30 10:44 pm (UTC)(link)
I would tend to agree with the anon above me. It sounds like you're already unhappy or discontent in the relationship you have, and it might be better to end it even if you don't have someone new. If you feel like your current partner isn't really a good fit for you, it might be fairer to both of you to think about leaving.

Or, alternatively, discussing it with them.
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[personal profile] diet_poison 2013-07-01 01:32 am (UTC)(link)
There definitely ARE people, real people, out there who are a better fit for you, anon. The world is full of billions of people.

Agreeing with other anons - if you're unhappy, then do yourself a favor and don't be in a relationship that makes you unhappy. I know it isn't necessarily that simple and I don't have all the information, but at least think about it. It's worth remembering that you can still be happy single, even if it's more lonely (trust me, I have experienced that; I still am) but you get so many opportunities to learn about yourself and what you really want, to grow and mature, and to eventually be that much more ready for the right person when they do come along, if a mate is what you are looking for.
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You are an idiot

[personal profile] insanenoodlyguy 2013-07-01 04:47 am (UTC)(link)
Who would say they'd love you back?

I rather imagine that between their horrible existential crisis of discovering they weren't real up till now, and the real crisis that everybody they knew and cared about was effectively dead (I imagine the first thing most of them would do is demand the others were brought forth as well), they'd be little interested in anything else.

And even when they moved on? You are some vouyer/stalker they'd be disgusted by. observing them for so long "knowing" them so well? Get away you sick freak. That's their reaction.

Assuming they are even sane.

Honestly if such a machine ever exists, I hope it's destroyed before knowledge of it's creation (and as importantly the method to create it) can be propagated.
Edited 2013-07-01 04:48 (UTC)

Re: You are an idiot

(Anonymous) 2013-07-01 10:29 pm (UTC)(link)
You win the internetz.

Well said.

I get the "really like, really enjoy reading/seeing this character, I identify with this character, this character has traits I would like to see in prospective partner, etc" but the comment above and your response defines what seems to be not quite right about this "I love fictional characters more than real people" because a fictional character is treated as an object upon which fantasies are cast.

(Anonymous) 2013-07-01 07:46 am (UTC)(link)
That... doesn't sound like a relationship worth staying in, anon. :( The thing is, you have MORE than a slim chance of being with someone who's a much better fit for you, but if you stay in a not-so-great relationship, you're passing up all those opportunities. It's like wanting/needing to catch a taxi to leave the place you're at, but failing to go stand on the street with your arm up to hail a cab.

The person you're meant to be with isn't going to fall out of the sky and land in front of you. Chances are, you'll have to take many, many risks to find that person, and learning how to be happy and independent is one of those risks.