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⌈ Secret Post #2374 ⌋

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[Archer]

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[x-files]

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[Danisnotonfire/AmazingPhil]

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[Earth2]

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[Saving Hope]

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[Kim Coates]

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[DeliciousCinnamon]

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[Moyashimon]

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[Lucy Lawless]

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[Richard Armitage]

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[Chuck]

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[Keeping Up Appearances]

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[Star Trek]

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It's really hard to say because everybody is look for different things and reacts differently. Some might simply want someone to acknowledge what they're going for, some might want advice how to stop, some might want someone to support their decision, some might want to just vent and get it out there and nto really want a reply at all. And some might not even be genuine or just simply want attention.

Unless you have an actual friendship with these people I'd not reply. If you *are* friends, then think about what you know about your friend and try and formulate a reply accordingly. Or you could just go with a generic "I'm here for you" type of reply.

Personal story time: When I was a teenager and into my twenties I was suicidal and had a lot of self harm habits. I was also a member of a message board for support. The people there listened and replied and generally just let me know that they understood (all being there for generally the same reason) and encouraged me, if not to stop, to make sure I was taking the best care of myself I could. It really helped, but that was me. What I wanted at the time was for people to just not judge me, people to understand where I was coming from and what I was dealing with, and not pressure me to stop or call me a liar or a faker or deny my emotions and actions.

So basically, just be there for your friends and let them know you care. It's not on you to "fix" a problem, just to offer support where you can.

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Re: Advice for talking to people who are suicidal/depressed/self-harming