[ SECRET POST #2377 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2377 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Comments

Re: Non-fandom secrets

[(Anonymous)]

I think people use the word arrogant too loosely whenever someone (usually a girl) thinks positive about herself. Maybe I'm just lenient, but I only find people arrogant and unbearable to be around if they honestly think they're better than others and make a point to purposefully shut others down to build themselves up.

But people who say stuff like, "Yeah I know I'm fabulous!", talk positively about their appearance or skills, or something like that when it's not hurting anyone? I don't care. In fact, I've hung with those types of people because they're fun to be around. And I'd pick those types of "arrogant" people who have confidence in themselves than a envious twit who wants to talk really shitty about others who might be seen as more conventionally attractive/more intelligent/funnier/etc than themselves.

Re: Non-fandom secrets

[(Anonymous)]

Totally disagree; in my opinion it's the complete opposite. People who go around talking about how awesome they are are massively insecure and have incredibly low self esteem. Truly confident people don't feel the need to do that. Although they also don't feel the need to say shit about other people...the two examples you've given are the same type of insecure person who just handle it in two different ways, in my experience.

Re: Non-fandom secrets

[(Anonymous)]

That might be your experience, but the friends I have would be more than happy to raise the self esteem of others by complimenting them because they're secure enough with themselves to not get jealous over petty insecurities. That's confidence. It takes a matter of knowing your self worth and being able to bring out the best in others.

Re: Non-fandom secrets

[(Anonymous)]

I meant that people who feel the need to tell everyone how awesome THEY (themselves) are and people who need to insult other people are just two sides of the same insecure/low self esteem coin.

Complimenting OTHER people is a totally different thing.

Re: Non-fandom secrets

[(Anonymous)]

Not really. I've seen plenty of people who bring out the confidence in themselves by recognizing their worth. Thinking you look good when you look in the mirror isn't an alarm for someone trying to compensate for something, and it's this misconception that is usually aimed at women. Plenty of women are told that they can't appreciate what they got otherwise they're thinking too highly of themselves.

Maybe you've seen this false confidence on tumblr, but in the real world, there are plenty of confident people you can find in the workforce who won't shy from a compliment. It's not a crime and it doesn't automatically scream that this person is secretly insecure.

Re: Non-fandom secrets

[(Anonymous)]

That's not what I'm talking about. There's nothing wrong with accepting a compliment, and just acknowledging that you're happy with how you look is not at all the same thing. I mean when someone is CONSTANTLY telling everyone around them how hot and awesome and smart and wonderful and important they are. It's the definition of arrogant, whether you agree or not. And actual arrogance in my opinion IS compensating for something. You don't have to agree, but it's not a "misconception"; it's subjective. And for what it's worth, most examples I can think of are guys.

Also, I'm not on Tumblr, and this has been entirely "in the real world".

Re: Non-fandom secrets

[(Anonymous)]

I mean when someone is CONSTANTLY telling everyone around them how hot and awesome and smart and wonderful and important they are.

That in of itself is subjective, give how some people might view someone talking about their interests, talents, or appearance in a positive manner as boasting when they're not really doing that. You also don't need to be using capslock to talk to me to make your point.

Re: Non-fandom secrets

[(Anonymous)]

And you don't need to be telling me what not to do. I used capslock on one word, for emphasis. Would you rather I have italicized or bolded or underlined it instead? Don't tell me you've never had a conversation with someone where they've put emphasis on one word. It's not like the entire thing was in capslock and constituted shouting.

But whatever. Like you said, it's subjective. You may not see it that way, others do. No one can say which is "right", and it really doesn't matter anyway.

Re: Non-fandom secrets

[(Anonymous)]

Actually, you used it twice. I can see this conversation isn't going very far since you're projecting your experiences onto this subject and attacking anyone who disagrees with you.

If it doesn't really matter to you, then maybe you should stop responding to the comments that obviously don't matter to you.