[ SECRET POST #2379 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2379 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Dysfunctional families

[(Anonymous)]

It's not the idea that people do love their families that's the problem, it's the idea that people must love their families that's damaging.

You'll occasionally come across shows with a character that has distanced themselves from their family for whatever reason, and other characters will try to impress upon them why that's so sad and tragic, and they'll push the first to make amends with their family without even considering that the person may have a very good reason for the distance in the first place. And then the show will make it so that the family has let bygones be bygones and/or they've realized their mistakes and apologize, thus reinforcing the notion that family "forgives and forgets," instead of showing a more likely scenario where nothing has changed and the character is justified in their excommunication.

In fact, the fact that it is part of our nature to be more lenient to those closest to us should logically lend some support to the idea that when people distance themselves from their families (who would often otherwise be the person's largest/most reliable support system), they do so for very good reason. I know from personal experience that trying to survive without the safety net of a home to go back to or a family to rely on can be extremely difficult and trying at times, but it was still better than living with my family and putting up with their bullshit. We're not all cutting off our noses to spite our faces - sometimes the detriment far outweighs the benefit, and we shouldn't be made to feel guilty about getting out.

+9000

[(Anonymous)]

THIS. Everything you just said. Yes.