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⌈ Secret Post #2382 ⌋

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[Big Brother]

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[Dragon Age: Origins]

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[The visitor from the future/Le visiteur du futur]

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[Young Avengers]

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[Welcome to Night Vale]

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[Buffy the Vampire Slayer]

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[Robin Hood]

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Oh man, have I been there. My sympathies.

If you want advice, and if you don't, feel free to ignore. Don't indulge it. Enjoy the feeling, but don't let it become a possibility. I've seen it screw up gaming sessions and friendships. (I've seen it happen twice in 6 years, it's not that dire, but it's still not a good idea.)

Sincerely, enjoy your crush, but don't let it get out of control.

Thanks.

I kind of want to break off the "engagement" until this crush dies a natural death of starvation (or he does something to kill it for me) but we've got a married couple whose PC's are marrying other people (to another PC even) so it would be suspicious. And just to complicate matters further I really do want to be his friend so it's not like I want to cut him out of my social life.

Fuck! Why couldn't I have gone through this stage in High School when people are supposed to be ridiculous?

Thanks for hearing me out.

Is your GM someone you can talk about the situation with, if only to give a heads-up about breaking off the IC engagement? Because it sounds like, given the situation, that is probably a good idea. I will say, from experience with various groups... this is the sorta thing that can easily tear a group apart, or at the very least cause a lot of drama.

Insane crushes and feels are a human thing and so are natural at any time of life. But I feel you about wishing you could have gotten this out of your system in high school. That was definitely me last year. I swear, it gets better. (I'm 29, so not that far out of HS/college. But still, omg self.)

Could you come up with IC reasons for the engagement to not go well? Do you think you and your friend would have more fun roleplaying those instead of the loving relationship? Especially if you've got one IC relationship going well, it might add some interesting flavor to the game to have one blow up in a controlled manner. This is only with his informed consent, of course.

Honestly, I'd say break off the engagement rather than going down a path you're uncomfortable with. There's nothing wrong with admitting that even though you know things are different IC and OOC, the IC engagement is making your real life a little weird for you. It's okay for feelings to get confused! It's okay even if other people are handling it differently. You are not the same person as them, and you and your brain need to handle this so it works for you. You can't tell your feelings to go away because they are inconvenient, sadly, so you have to figure out what to do with the feelings you have.

Out of curiosity, what system?

Out of curiosity, what system?

Pathfinder, if the secret is any indication.

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