[ SECRET POST #2382 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2382 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Big Brother]


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03.
[Dragon Age: Origins]


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04.
[The visitor from the future/Le visiteur du futur]


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[Young Avengers]


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06.
[Welcome to Night Vale]


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07.
[Buffy the Vampire Slayer]


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08.
[Robin Hood]


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10. [NS]


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Comments

[bored_bitch]

To me, in my relationships, it's just as bad as cheating. It's still sexual attraction to someone else, regardless of whether or not they act on it. They might be respectful in not acting upon it, but respect isn't the issue here. The attraction is.
And that's not the kind of thing that I want out of a relationship. I'd much rather just be single, in that situation.

It might be a little possessive, but I'm completely fine with being possessive towards something that I'm going to invest as much of myself in as a relationship. And if the guy doesn't like that, they're completely free to either reject me to begin with, or break up with me.

I am holding them accountable for how they feel, though.
Sexual attraction is a feeling.

[(Anonymous)]

If your standard for cheating is whether the person you're in a relationship with ever finds a human being besides yourself sexually attractive, you'd better gouge his eyes out with a teaspoon the moment your relationship becomes official.

Sexual attraction may be something you "feel," but it is not an emotion. If a partner isn't being physically or emotionally unfaithful, it seems unreasonable to try to police their thoughts for passing flights of imagination that might involve other people.

[chardmonster]

I'd like to add that kicking out a loved one for experiencing an emotion would be pretty fucked up.

[(Anonymous)]

Well, falling in love with somebody else could be something of a deal-breaker for many reasonable people who aren't comfortable with poly relationships, which is basically what I was talking about. But having a superficial crush or a passing sexual fantasy is not falling in love with someone else, or comparable.

[bored_bitch]

I'm not policing their thoughts. They chose to be in the relationship with me, knowing full well how I am. They have a right to get up and walk out if they don't like that. I didn't force anyone into anything unwillingly.

And my relationship is already official. And I know him well enough that he's not the type to feel those things.
Maybe I'm just really lucky.

[(Anonymous)]

Maybe you're not lucky but rather he's not stupid enough to tell you about it should he ever have a fleeting fantasy about someone else.

[chardmonster]

He's not the type to feel attracted to people?

This says some odd things about your relationship.

[(Anonymous)]

"Not the type to feel those things"? What "type" is that, exactly? Are you saying that your partner is demisexual? Or are you disparaging every human being in a relationship who doesn't confine their every sexual thought to their partner?

Then dump him now

[insanenoodlyguy]

Cause guess fucking what sweetheart? Him and every other sexually active man on earth? WE HAVE THAT, ALL THE DAMN TIME.

I can appreciate you not wanting him to be all salacious about it or openly leering or what not, but you know what? He didn't stop having natural reactions or hormones or EYBALLS when you got together. And that's not his problem. It's yours.

Re: Then dump him now

[(Anonymous)]

This man here is not having sexual fantasies about other women all the damn time. Finding someone else sexually attractive =/= having sexual fantasies about them. I can admit other women are hot, I can admire their looks and even openly in front of my girl (and she can do the same with men), but I don't imagine myself fucking the women I find hot when I'm having sex with her. Because I love her and she's the sexiest one to me. Cheesy but true: I love to have sex with the one I love and not some imaginary character - holy shit.

"All men are lik that" is a stupid generalization.
I don't need to think I'm bonking Jessica Rabbit or some random chick I saw the other day at Burger King to ~spice up my love life~. Maybe you do, but stop dragging our entire gender into it, sweetheart.

Re: Then dump him now

[bored_bitch]

Are you also the type to argue that asexuals don't exist?

All guys are not you.
You are not all guys.
This should be obvious.

Re: Then dump him now

[chardmonster]

Asexuals certainly exist. You'd probably have to date one to be happy.

[(Anonymous)]

enjoy your divorce once your husband gets tired of having to lie about the fact that you're not the only attractive person on eart

[bored_bitch]

Enjoy your angst at the idea of two people loving each other, regardless of some rigid guidelines that you might not agree with. :D

[(Anonymous)]

I appreciate the hard-ass nature of your position.

But the "cut off your own hand if it offends you" ethos is a little unrealistic, for human beings.

[bored_bitch]

It only seems unrealistic if one is desperate for the concept of constantly being in a relationship. I am not.

[chardmonster]

Clearly.

[bored_bitch]

I read very little fic. And I have no idea what fic has to do with relationships.
Because I'm not sexually attracted to my ships... ?
I... what?

[(Anonymous)]

The only real generalisation you can make is that "I ship A/B" means "I like to read and/or write about A and B in a relationship" - this means different things to different people. You can find a fictional relationship interesting for all kinds of reasons.

[riddian]

I hope you enjoy being single forever. O__o

[bored_bitch]

Married for 6 years. Still going.