[ SECRET POST #2383 ]

[case]

⌈ Secret Post #2383 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.









01. http://i.imgur.com/xFMajFq.gif
[Hannibal; moving gif]


__________________________________________________













[ ----- SPOILERY SECRETS AHEAD ----- ]













02. [SPOILERS for Hawaii Five-O]



__________________________________________________



03. [SPOILERS for Ashes to Ashes/Life on Mars]



__________________________________________________




04. [SPOILERS for A Song of Ice and Fire/Game of Thrones]



__________________________________________________














[ ----- TRIGGERY SECRETS AHEAD ----- ]
















05. [WARNING for rape]

[Russell Brand]


__________________________________________________



06. [WARNING for sexual assault]



__________________________________________________



07. [WARNING for chan/shota]



__________________________________________________



08. [WARNING for emotional abuse]



__________________________________________________




09. [WARNING for rape/dub-con]



__________________________________________________



10. [WARNING for incest]

[Fosters]


















Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 00 pages, 000 secrets from Secret Submission Post #340.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 1 - broken links ], [ 1 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

[fscom]

08. [WARNING for emotional abuse]
http://i.imgur.com/O9LaDc0.jpg

[cassandraoftroy]

Recognizing the abuse for what it was is the first step, and an important one. Getting over, and healing from, an abusive relationship takes time, and often support. I hope that, now that you have some idea of what to look for, it will be easier for you to recognize and avoid abusive situations in the future.

[(Anonymous)]

Please please don't go back. He's still the same person and you will end up in the same place as you were when you left. You were strong enough to leave. You are strong enough to stay away. Please do - it's for the best.

[elephantinegrace]

Domestic abuse has the unfortunate tendency of making the survivors blame themselves or long for their abuser even after said abuser has been identified as such. I mean, if he hadn't been charming and kind at least sometimes, you wouldn't have loved him to begin with. It can be really hard to accept that terrible people aren't terrible all the time, or that just because a person is good sometimes that there's nothing anyone can do to make them good all the time. But you were strong enough to get out, so you're definitely strong enough to stay out, and it'll hurt less with time.

warning for emotional abuse

[transcriptanon]

warning for emotional abuse

[Picture is Hannibal Lecter talking earnestly to Will Graham from the TV show "Hannibal". Will is looking to one side. It looks like Will is sitting down somewhere, while Hannibal is standing in front of him and leaning down to be at a face-to-face height with him. Hannibal has short, straight brown hair and a lightly tanned skin. He is wearing a dark suit with a white shirt and a red tie, all looking kind of expensive. Will is a man with lightly tanned skin and wavy short brown hair. He is wearing light brown shirt or jacket.]

Their relationship dynamic makes me realise that what I and my ex-boyfriend had was far from healthy. Unfortunately, as much as it hurts to admit, I was the "Will". And he gave even less of a damn, as it turned out. He almost broke me. And I see a lot of the same behaviors reflected in the show.

Too long; didn't read: It took me a show about serial killers to realise that my ex was emotionally abusive and manipulative, and quite possibly has some kind of a personality disorder.

Bonus secret: I still miss him, I still love him, and I'd still take him back. That is fucked up.

[(Anonymous)]

i know this suggestions gets thrown around a lot, but is a psychologist an option? please consult one, if you can.

don't take this man back, please please please

it's okay to love him and miss him, you're not a bad person or stupid for feeling that way, but please don't let him back into your life or enter contact or communication with him again

[(Anonymous)]

not related to OP's secret but -

does this show have slash? if I'm a fan of slash, will I like this show? everyone keeps posting secrets about these two dudes..

[(Anonymous)]

Not overtly, but the show is all about the (scary abusive) relationship that develops between the two, because one (Will Graham) is gifted with the ability to empathize with anyone, and the other (Hannibal Lecter) is an inhuman serial killer who sees will as the only person who can understand him. Being an inhuman serial killer, he has no idea how to be someone's friend in a normal, healthy way, so he does all kinds of appalling shit in order to make Will need and depend on him.

The actor who plays Hannibal has said repeatedly that Hannibal loves Will and has called their relationship a "bromance", but it's a very twisted form of love.

So if that presses any of your buttons, go for it (the show is FANTASTIC anyway), but if you're looking for an actual gay romance, this show is not it.

[(Anonymous)]

Late to arrive, but I wanted to say as a survivor of a very abusive, manipulative relationship, getting out is the hardest part. Staying out gets easier with time and healing and realizing that you deserve so, so, so much better than someone who treats you that way.

It is hard, for sure, and I completely empathize with missing that person even after all he's put you through. It isn't fucked up; it's a perfectly normal part of breaking up with *anyone*, even someone who treated you very poorly. But you do deserve better, and anyone who is truly worth your time will see that and act on it.

Anon internet hugs, if you would like them. <3