[ SECRET POST #2385 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2385 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Comments

Re: STOP. TOUCHING. ME.

[deenaa]

For the first guy, if he does grab at you again, push him away and say something like "Do you think your right to touch my body is more important than my right to not be touched?". Frame the question in such a way that he sounds like a total scumbag (because he is).

When he whines "it's just a hand on your shoulder!" then just repeat it. He either has to say no and back off, or be exceptionally stupid and say yes, in which case you report him. (Asking him to not to touch you and him not stopping is grounds to get higher ups on your side).

As for the other guy, honestly, talk to him. He might be respectful, and it'll be fine. If he isn't, then just treat him the same as the other guy.

Re: STOP. TOUCHING. ME.

[(Anonymous)]

Oh, the first one's stopped - he may have been grumpy, but he at least understands that continuing to do something like that after the person's told him not to is grounds for sexual harassment. I don't really think he's a terrible guy, just perhaps a little...uninsightful? Like, he doesn't always consider how he might be perceived.

I think the second's the same way, and he is likely apologize if I tell him to not - I just don't think it occurs to him that even if I'm friendly, that doesn't mean I'm going to be receptive to gestures he considers friendly.

I thankfully haven't encountered any real creeps here, just guys who mean well but don't always consider the other person's perspective. Our HR person is awesome and I'd be running to her so fast if I thought either of these guys were actually being gross instead of just making mistakes.

Re: STOP. TOUCHING. ME.

[deenaa]

That is good news, and I'm glad you're not in any serious danger. And if that changes, you have excellent support.

As for the second guy, I wouldn't worry about telling him to step back if that's your impression. It's basic respect, and if he gives you shit, I honestly recommend that question in my initial comment.

Touchy feely creepers like to violate your boundaries and often guilt trip you into being 'weird' for not going along with it. The question of forces them to down to two answers - one where they leave you alone, and one where they show their ass. It also makes it pretty clear you ain't tolerating that shit.

I tend to sort of view things in the worst possible scenario, so I always end up giving somewhat unnecessary advice. Sorry about that. >_>

Re: STOP. TOUCHING. ME.

[(Anonymous)]

Hey, no worries ^^ I much prefer people taking it too seriously to not taking it seriously at all. I was honestly expecting at least one person to say that I'm being oversensitive, so it's a pleasant surprise to see people understanding the issue I'm having.

Re: STOP. TOUCHING. ME.

[with-rainfall.livejournal.com]

Ugh, sorry, OP. It's one thing if you know and are used to touch from the person, but randomly touching acquaintances is, um, intrusive.