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Slightly inspired by above asexuality thread.

What do you do when you're in a relationship with someone, and even though you still love them, still find them beautiful, still sexually attracted to them, and then you find your sex drive has just gone.

What do I do?

If you're still sexually attracted to them (and you've experienced sexual attraction to them and/or other people in the past), then you're not asexual.

Asexuality is a lack of sexual attraction.

Your desire to have sex with this person has gone, that's all.

I can't actually offer a whole lot of advice on this, since I don't have experience in this area... but maybe it's just a dry spell for you? I have natural fluctuations in my libido, and I suspect the majority of other people have times when they don't particularly want sex.

It doesn't mean you don't love the person. And you said yourself you're still sexually attracted to them.

If it's really bothering you, maybe remind yourself what it is about the person you love. What is it about them that first made your heart beat a little faster, that first drew you to them? Just remind yourself of those little things as you go about your day.

If you're still sexually attracted to them, then you're not likely to be asexual.

It sounds like your libido just crashed. It happens to me sometimes. If you're on any new meds, or if there've been changes in your environment, or if you've changed your diet, you can experience a loss of libido. Or, if you're female, sometimes your hormones just decide that they hate you and don't want you to have sex. Shit happens. You either need to backtrack to see what might be the cause, or you just need to wait it out. Or you can always have naked funtiems without the guarantee of sex, if you still want to be intimate with your partner - sometimes that'll trigger your body into getting into gear even if you weren't particularly interested before. You can also try incorporating testosterone-boosting foods into your diet and see if that helps any.

You kill yourself, thats what you do, you fucking moron.

youre not asexual. stop pretending such a special little snowflake.

classy response

oh, fuck off.

tried too hard braumsie

/eyeroll

I don't think that's the same as being asexual. Has anything changed? Like: are you under stress, taking hormones, depression medication etc.

Some things can massively damage your sex drive.

It may be that you've developed a health issue of some kind (physical or mental) that's hindering your libido.

It may also be part of the natural cycle of long relationships, where interest in sex with each other tends to fluctuate and gradually decline.

Either way you should probs be talking to your partner about it rather than to the internet.

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