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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2013-08-01 07:04 pm

[ SECRET POST #2403 ]


⌈ Secret Post #2403 ⌋

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Re: F!S is better than therapy

[personal profile] pantasma 2013-08-02 09:43 pm (UTC)(link)
And it's free!

I'm sorry it's bringing you all so much stress, hon. It's ok that you're feeling that way because it can help you heal, too. My family had to deal with something similar, so I'm familiar with the conflicting feelings. I have little sympathy for people involved in drugs, stemming from personal experience, especially if they're causing harm to those around them, but that doesn't make it any less sucky.

I know your mom doesn't want you to talk about it (just?) outside the family, but it sounds like you need to talk to someone to find some emotional support. Is she afraid of airing dirty laundry, or bringing embarrassment or judgement down on the family? Is there someone in the family you could talk to, just to give voice to your concerns? My school had a great psychological support center, do you know if yours does? Hell, talk to your walls. Talking out loud helps me when I need to work through something, and often leads down different paths than just ruminating on the same labyrinth in my head.

Hugs if you want 'em, knowing nods if you don't. Hope you find some calm and peace soon.

Re: F!S is better than therapy

(Anonymous) 2013-08-02 10:39 pm (UTC)(link)
Thank you.
I always found it's quite hard to be in a company of people who all think "hey, smoking weed is completely harmless and fun, let's all share" when I've seen what this comparatively harmless drug can do to people. So I always excuse myself from those groups when they start with it.
I hope things in your family are okay again!

I guess she is. She keeps saying she doesn't care what people say, but I know that it would still bother her. Especially since we live in a fairly small village - even if my brother lives in another town, he still has friends here. News travel fast and people are quick to point fingers and blaming others. But nothing has happened yet in this particular situation (administration works slowly), so there's nothing to do but wait.

Thank you for your suggestions. I'm not much for talking loud, but I found that The Thoughts Room website really helps getting things off my chest. I'm not yet sure I want to seek professional help. And it also helps talking to my mother about this - I feel like I can help her a little because, despite all, I am still able to look at my brother's situation objectively, and that's a good thing.
I feel like, at least, I'm finally able to tackle that thesis (it's not even that much, I just couldn't find the motivation to start on it. I was completely stuck) - not for myself but for my parents, so they don't have another child who fucks up their life. They have already been so very patient with me as well.

Thanks again for the e-hugs and good wishes.