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After last week's secret about appearance affecting friendship - has anyone on F!S ever had a friend who was distractingly gorgeous to the point where it was becoming awkward? Because I have this problem, and it's a little weird to stare at your friend like a lovesick teenager. I can't be the only one, right?

...No? But at the same time I kind of flirt with all my friends, regardless of actual attraction to them [and they know it], so...it might not even register for them.

I don't know what any of my friends look like and I try to keep it that way.

No. But I'm asexual so that might help. :/ Sorry OP.

DA

oh i'm a little sad to find this out about you. (in an "ah shoot now I can't hit on you in the unlikely event of us meeting" way)

You can still hit on me. I'll flirt back because I think it's funny.

Besides, I'm not someone who believes that labels are stagnant. All signs point to the fact that I'm asexual so that's what I call myself. However, if that were to change in the future I would not be upset. I would simply change the label I use.

Same.

Once or twice, but I asked myself a few times, "Do you really want to date them/have sex with them?" and the answer was always no, and then the feelings/thoughts faded.

I feel this way about complete strangers, but once I get to know people, I usually stop finding them attractive.

Not sure if that's weird.

Demi-asexual?

This is pretty much me! :D

Yeah, the more I know someone the less attractive I find them. It's kind of strange, but at least it makes relationships easier (well, ending them anyway.)

My roommate. I'm dating someone else and totally happy with that, but wow do I have a beautiful roommate.

...I had that with a therapist once. The first few sessions were EXTREMELY weird. But he was also the best damn therapist I've ever had so I'm glad I didn't stop seeing him because of it (which I considered the whole first month of our sessions).

Once when I was in high school. We weren't that close, and once I found out more about him as a person I lost interest. It's not like he was a bad guy; I just found out that we didn't click personality wise or interest wise. There's a certain chemistry I need with someone where they have a personality, beliefs, looks, and common interests that I can dig. That and if someone doesn't at least hint that they're interested in me, I lose interest pretty fast.

About your friend, maybe find out more about him/her and realize that you might not click on an emotional level? Or possibly spend less time around them and more around other people you're interested in? This is assuming he/she doesn't have an interest in you. If they do or if you don't know yet, you should ask them. I mean, what's the worst that can happen? They reject you and you have the opportunity to find someone else?

That's kind of the thing - I don't actually want to make a move on him, it's a purely aesthetic thing. Like: you look at a beautiful vase when you're window-shopping, and you might go "wow" but you don't want to take it home. But at the same time, I do feel very awkward round him. We're still friends - and the thing is, we do click, very well, it's just that I feel nothing romantic for him. Sexual attraction is completely different though, and that's there.

I don't think he's ever looked twice, and that's fine. Neither of us are actually interested, it's just distracting being friends with a living oil painting.

DA
Is your friend's name Dorian Gray? Just curious ;)

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