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[ SECRET POST #2414 ]

⌈ Secret Post #2414 ⌋

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[Akumu-chan / My Little Nightmare]

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[Star Trek: The Next Generation/Deanna Troi]

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[The Borgias]

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[Kaiba Seto and Jounouchi Katsuya from Yu-gi-oh!]

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[Spring Breakers]

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[Murder Rooms]

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[Twin Peaks]

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[Mass Effect]

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[Despicable Me 2]

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[Ice Age]

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[Arrested Development]

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[Super Junior]

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[Halloween]

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Not if they put on a bit of weight, but if they went from their usual weight to morbidly obese, most likely yes.

Barring alien fat rays, then we'll work though it to find a cute

If my SO broke a nail, I would dump their ass, are you kidding me.

Shit people are answering this seriously?

Not my current girlfriend (she could do with gaining a few pounds actually) but I have dumped 2 of my past boyfriends for this exact reason. IMO women get cute when they get chubbier, men just end up looking gross, lazy, sweaty, and generally ugh.

I know this makes me shallow but I'm ngl, I agree.

There are some women who actually look more attractive when they're over weight because their weight happens to distribute nicely. Fat men are just fat.

But then I'm a lesbian so at least I guess I don't have to worry about breaking up with a fat boyfriend

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Agreed. Personally I'm skinny, so this opinion isn't influenced by my own appearance, but I think a woman can be overweight and still very attractive (though I wouldn't date someone obese). However, I don't like to see even a small amount of excess fat on a man. It tends to be distributed more unflatteringly, and really puts me off.

My SO is obese :)

I didn't, so no.

Barring exceptional circumstances, have to say yes.

Though obviously I'd try to help them when they were piling on the pounds, but that suggests something more long term and substantial.

What qualify as "exceptional circumstances" for you?

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... half the couples I know would be doomed if they did that.

america pls go and stay go

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Probably, because it wouldn't happen instantly and when they turn obviously overweight they should stop and decide to do something about it. In case they'd go 'nah, fuck it' and keep on gaining weight, I'd think that they are not going to bother taking care of themselves anymore.

That depends. If you're talking "technically only obese according to BMI," then no. However, if you're talking "obese enough that they are incapable of fully washing themselves and so fungus grows between stomach rolls," then you bet your sweet ass I would. That's disgusting.

DA

IA, some chubby I can deal with...maybe even BMI obese...but if we're talking about it affecting them medically, impacting our bills, incapable of caring for themselves without my help? Nooooo

Yes, but not just for obesity. *If* it's actually part of a bigger problem, like they've also become extremely lazy and don't do anything whatsoever to help put in any area, then yes. (Not that I think all obese people are lazy and vice versa, and I'd dump anyone that lazy regardless of weight.)

If we're talking morbid obesity, probably yes. It wouldn't be the obesity that made me leave, it'd be everything else. Morbid obesity doesn't happen overnight. They had to let it happen over time and most likely be ignoring my and everyone else's attempts to get them to eat right or exercise more, and ignoring all the negative effects for whatever reason. It doesn't matter what the reason is, but it's apparently more important than I am.

If it's because of something like depression, I might stay as long as they were honestly working at resolving the issue at the core. But if it's that they're just plain too lazy to eat right or exercise, then goodbye and good luck with somebody else.

...honestly, probably yes, but I do think if I started dating someone who wasn't even close and they became obese after a period of time, there'd be other issues going on. If it was an issue out of their control that they were trying to resolve, then I would stay, but if they had stopped taking care of themselves for no real reason, then...yeah I'd probably go.

I'm not going to lie - this is partly because I find obesity to be EXTREMELY unattractive. And I totally get that that's not true of everyone, but for me...I don't like chubiness either; I don't even like buffed-up-look-I-go-to-the-gym-every-day muscles. I also don't like super tallness. I think it's just any form of extra mass that puts me off. I'm not even sure why. (Maybe the association with people who do not smell good is part of it.) But the physical aspect of a relationship is very important to me and if I'm not only not attracted to, but actually repulsed by, my partner that would really put a damper on things for me.

Obviously YMMV.

There is a distinct possibly that my husband will be obese at some point in his life.

He has Crohn's. Most likely, he will someday require surgery to remove part of his colon. As he already gains weight fairly easily (he currently controls it through exercise and diet, but if he stops exercising just for a week or two, there's a noticeable change), it's a fair bet that he'll fatten up during post-op recovery.

I knew this when I married him.

I love him. I'm not co-dependent; I could spend my life without him. But I don't care to. There's no way I'm going to leave him.

I'm glad people like you exist, anon. :)

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My husband is obese. So am I. Not swimming in lard, motoring around Wal-Mart, auditioning for reality shows obese; just garden-variety, oversized but essentially functional, fat. We got that way together and most days I don't think either of us really notices that much.

Perusing the other replies, I guess we can just go ahead and cross "for better or worse, in sickness and in health" off our list of treasured iconic cultural phrases. Good grief, people.

No, as long as my partner accepts treatment for the issue if the cause behind the weight gain is something outside of their control, like illness, injury, depression, eating disorder, etc. We might break up if said problems become too much for me to help them with, though I'll try my best.

And if they're getting fat because of something harmless, like, say, they just finished a cooking course and somebody has to eat all that good food they've started making, that's no problem at all...probably because I'll be getting fatter right along with them. An SO who can cook is dangerous, son. We can join a gym together.

I say this someone who actually finds extra weight quite attractive on a person (even to the point of obesity): I would, if the weight was a reflection of a problem in their life they continually refused to acknowledge or address. Or, to put it another way, if I really loved someone, a change in their physical body for whatever reason isn't going to change that - but a refusal or inability to face up to their personal issues might, whether or not those issues are connected to a physical change.

I know this makes me shallow but possibly. It depends how much weight gain we're talking. My last boyfriend was not my physical type because he was too thin - I mean, about 9st which is just at the low end of a healthy weight for his height, but seemed too thin to me. I'm borderline overweight/obese according to BMI (which is not the best indicator, I know, but is a starting point to visualise this stuff.)

If he'd put a lot of weight on and gone up to, say 14st I guess it would have been just fine with me, maybe even would have made him more attractive/more my type. If he went up to 30st then we would have issues because I just don't think I would find him as attractive and I don't want to have sex with someonoe I don't find attractive and I don't want to be in a relationship with someone I don't want to have sex with because sex to me is a big part of a relationship and I wouldn't want to be without it. Unless we could work out an agreement where I could sleep with other people while still being in a relationship with him but that'd be unlikely because most people wouldn't like that relationship (I know I certainly wouldn't if the roles were reversed).

That was very long because I apparently have opinions on this subject. Basically, if they got very overweight to the point I didn't find them attractive/want to have sex then I would try to either split up and stay friends or work out an open relationship.

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