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⌈ Secret Post #2414 ⌋

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[Akumu-chan / My Little Nightmare]

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[Star Trek: The Next Generation/Deanna Troi]

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[The Borgias]

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[Kaiba Seto and Jounouchi Katsuya from Yu-gi-oh!]

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[Spring Breakers]

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[Murder Rooms]

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[Twin Peaks]

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[Mass Effect]

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[Despicable Me 2]

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[Ice Age]

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[Arrested Development]

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[Super Junior]

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[Halloween]

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Not less valid at all, no. Poly doesn't mean that everyone has to be in the all the same relationships. But you have to remember that "polyamory" is typically multiple relationships, not just sleeping with another/multiple people. If you (both) don't want him to be in another romantic relationship, I would suggest looking at other options. There are those in the community -- and it is a community -- who are just looking for multiple sexual partners, but they are more difficult to find.

Is there someone he could be friends with benefits with? When you say it's his biggest caveat, does that mean he doesn't want to be romantically involved with anyone else (/afraid he would be), or he does? Which might mean multiple someones, infrequently and briefly visited.

Have you thought about other things, like rules around them?

A friends with benefits situation would be ideal. His caveat is romantic involvement: he doesn't want anything with anyone else to go beyond sex.

It's kind of a weird situation, and it will take a lot of discussion and hammering out if it's ever to go anywhere.

Gotcha, thanks for clarifying.

It's not terribly unusual, but a lot of people just dive in. I'm glad to hear you're already prepared to talk and work it out if you do pursue it!

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