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⌈ Secret Post #2414 ⌋

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[Akumu-chan / My Little Nightmare]

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[Star Trek: The Next Generation/Deanna Troi]

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[The Borgias]

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[Kaiba Seto and Jounouchi Katsuya from Yu-gi-oh!]

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[Spring Breakers]

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[Murder Rooms]

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[Twin Peaks]

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[Mass Effect]

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[Despicable Me 2]

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[Ice Age]

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[Arrested Development]

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[Super Junior]

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[Halloween]

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In my limited experience, opening up a relationship that was initially negotiated as monogamous (or assumed monogamous on both sides by default) is extremely difficult. I would also argue that if any of the partners involved are actively trying to prevent the development of romantic connections, it may be an open relationship, and nothing's wrong with that, but it's probably not polyamory and you might want to avoid labeling it that way, as it will confuse and potentially disappoint potential other partners.

Having said that, the Spouse and I have a similar libido mismatch, albeit in the opposite direction, and my having other partners has worked well to take the pressure off of him. We started off the relationship knowing that I fell in love with more than one person at once, though, and we were at least poly-in-theory from the get-go. Transitioning to poly-in-practice brought up some anxiety issues about abandonment on his part, but once we worked through them and he could see I had no intention of giving up a good thing when I could have it and my new shiny too, he got over them. Occasionally they resurface, we have a talk and a good cuddle, and we go on. One of my other relationships recently went on hiatus because my other partner realized he really couldn't handle long distance, but we're still friends and I hope he'll get back to a place in his life where he has the spare energy for me again.

[ SECRET POST #2414 ]

Re: Introducing Polyamory into a Previously Monogamous Relationship