[ SECRET POST #2414 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2414 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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02.
[Akumu-chan / My Little Nightmare]


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03.
[Star Trek: The Next Generation/Deanna Troi]


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04.
[The Borgias]


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05.
[Kaiba Seto and Jounouchi Katsuya from Yu-gi-oh!]


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06.
[Spring Breakers]


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07.
[Murder Rooms]


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08.
[Twin Peaks]


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09.
[Mass Effect]


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10.
[Despicable Me 2]


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11.
[Ice Age]


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12.
[Arrested Development]


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13.
[Super Junior]


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14.
[Halloween]


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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 03 pages, 064 secrets from Secret Submission Post #345.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

Re: Introducing Polyamory into a Previously Monogamous Relationship

[(Anonymous)]

You know, that's something that's interesting to me. What would it take to indicate that I want to do it? Would it mean that I also want to have other partners? There are a lot of good points being made, and much has been brought to light that I hadn't considered, but I don't understand this implication that it's not something I actually want to do. The fact that I don't currently have any desire to sleep with anyone else doesn't mean that I don't truly want my partner to be able to sleep with others.

As for your second point: he's okay with my lower sex drive on an intellectual level, but in practice, he's not. When we haven't had sex for a while, he withdraws emotionally and physically.

...ha. It's a funny thing. As I typed that, I realized the futility of all of this. You're right: it is a band-aid. It's something to cover up a problem that he has.

Well. That's a start, then.

Thank you and to everyone else.

Re: Introducing Polyamory into a Previously Monogamous Relationship

[(Anonymous)]

AYRT

Well...you say 'Hey, I'm interested in us being in a poly [or open, which isn't the same thing as other's have pointed out] relationship. What do you think?' The catch here is that poly relationships rely on open and honest communication even more than monogamous ones. If nothing else, you need it because jealousies and insecurities do happen, and you need to be able to talk about that and work it out.

If you didn't want another relationship, you wouldn't 'need' to be in one, or even interested in one. Most triads are actually set up with one person being the 'pivot', and the other two have some form of platonic relationship between them, while being romantically involved with the pivot [at least in my experience].

But...yeah. It seems as if you've got some stuff to sort out before it'd be a good thing to talk over, if you were even that interested in it. Best of luck sorting it out!